Deleted my thread

[Cataholic]

I did not intend to imply my "blessing." Often what offends one person would not offend another - I could give about a bazillion examples of this in the art world, for example.

I responded to ES's post simply, pointing out that she brought something from an unrelated thread unto this thread. I did not mean it as an attack on ES, just a correction for the future.

I'm not trying to attack anyone, just trying to keep some order!

Whatever does that mean, a correction for the future??? There were other posts in here that came from an unrelated thread into this one. The veggie salad one comes to mind immediately. I think I posted that first, or maybe it was Asiel? I know I didn't receive an public reprimand. The fact was, ES was being supportive of the OP by pointing out that others have made offensive types of comments that didn't draw the ire of the crowd...and she had every technological ability to carry with the quoted piece the name of the author, something she did not do.

I just don't get the double standard'ish treatments at all, nothing that I haven't shared with you in the past, albeit privately. When I see it so blatently displayed here, I can't help but say something. Your board, your rules, but I can dislike the disparate treatment all the way to the bank.

[Karen]

Whatever does that mean, a correction for the future?

It was just the most blatant example. And the "correction for the future" meant, "next time do it differently" - that's what I meant.

I felt the "veggie salad" comments were pertinent to this thread, as they were made by the original poster of this thread, Marigold.

The "lady guts" was a different thread from a different person, unrelated to Marigold.

[Killearn Kitties]

I felt the "veggie salad" comments were pertinent to this thread, as they were made by the original poster of this thread, Marigold.

Really Karen, are you saying that if you are the originator of the thread, anything goes?

I cannot tell you how upset I would be if that were the case.

[Karen]

Really Karen, are you saying that if you are the originator of the thread, anything goes?

I cannot tell you how upset I would be if that were the case.

No, I was saying that as the thread was about Marigold's posts being upsetting to people, mentioning other posts of hers that bothered you would be pertinent to the thread at hand.

Does that explain it better?

In any case the thread about Cam getting spayed has been deleted by the poster.

[lvpets2002]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

In any case the thread about Cam getting spayed has been deleted by the poster.

[Cataholic]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

I believe you are mistaken. According to Jess, she didn't misuse a word. She posted it as she thought it was a humorous/funny way to describe it. She knew what she was posting. Frankly, from your description of Jess, you seem to think she is an imbecile with no command of the english language. She is far from either. She simply used a phrase many thought tasteless. Not a death sentance, not a punishable offense...simply a poor choice of words, that even you acknowledge.

I believe I mentioned this before to you, that YOU don't see something worth posting about is fine. Don't post. That doesn't mean others have the same opinion. This "hold hands and sing along" thing is nice, in theory, I suppose. But, not everyone feels like this.

I haven't seen anyone make a claim of perfection on here. I don't think any of this is about making genuine mistakes, or mispeaking. If you think that, then I don't think you did read the original thread (I am not referring to Jess's). I can never remember my quotes and the authors of them. Certainly, I do not claim this as mine. But, someone famous said something along the lines of, "he who stands for nothing, falls for everything". I think it is appropriate here.

No one needs to look in the mirror, no one needs to feel ganged up on, there are no secret societies (that I am aware of). This board is comprised of a group of people with vast and varied degree of experiences. There are many opinions, some people are comfortable expressing their's, and some are not. Some people avoid conflict, some are conflict driven. (I probably fall in the latter category, in case any one wonders.)

It is irksome to have anyone (not just the government) attempt to quiet those that dissent, or don't share the majority opinion. I feel irked when someone tells me I shouldn't have/share opinions on a public board.

[Taz_Zoee]

I'm all for sharing opinions. It's just the way they are delivered or how others receive them that appears to be the problem starter.
It will never be all sun shiney and perfect on here. I've learned to accept that fact. I'm one that tends to avoid conflict.

[RICHARD]

This "hold hands and sing along" thing is nice, in theory, I suppose.

Let's give it a try.....wipe you hands on your pant legs, everyone hold hands and....

Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, the Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya;
Kum bay ya, my Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's laughing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me crying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's crying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me singing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's praying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya;
Hear me praying, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.

Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya;
Someone's singing, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya;
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya;
Oh, I need you, Lord, kum bay ya,
O Lord, kum bay ya.



I feel better already, It didn't hurt and some you can't sing.

[shais_mom]

I am so saddened by this.. Yes I will admitt her wording was all wrong = But she meant no harm.. She is just a Youngen with lack of wording knowledge.. Jessie just wanted everyone to have prayers about her baby too.. **Now I Wish For All To Read Post #73 that I wrote..**

actually she isn't that young, she's on the closer side to 30 then 20. I don't think it has anything to do with her age, just her personality, and while there isn't anything wrong with that, it was kind of abrasive to read it that way. But admittedly I even said to myself "I never would have thought of it that way". Doesn't make it right or wrong - just different.
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I suppose since I don't post here as much anymore I shouldn't have had an opinion but that hasn't stopped me or anyone else before so why start now. I understand giving people 2 or 4 or 999 chances, but when every post marigold posts is something nasty, negative, demeaning, making fun of someone's body shape, style, smell, or mental capacity. I don't understand why she isn't banned when people have been banned for less. I mean a lot of dogs won't bite the hand that beats it until its hit its breaking point either, but good grief. When the woman spreads discord like some people spread grass seed - something needs to change. She isn't banned and if she IS privately asked to shape or or ship out and doesn't and doesn't and doesn't then if she isn't removing herself, my natural instinct is to remove myself. So I did. I miss my friends yes, but I miss the way PT was without her in it.
This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

[RICHARD]

This whole scenario reminds me of The Real Housewives of New Jersey. Marigold and that crazy Danielle might as well be one and the same! Its like The Real Housewives(and househusbands?) of PET TALK! The NJ housewives are removing themselves from being filmed b/c they are scared of "D" and her friends and her repercussions. Sound familiar??

I like the NY women better,

That Kelly is a space cadet.

[Killearn Kitties]

No, I was saying that as the thread was about Marigold's posts being upsetting to people, mentioning other posts of hers that bothered you would be pertinent to the thread at hand.

Does that explain it better?

Thank you Karen. I thought you were losing your marbles last night, but here it was only me! Having read it again, I understand perfectly what you said.

[moosmom]

RICHARD,

Did you know I have a giant pimple on my forehead today.

Tomorrow?

Who knows

A boil on your butt, perhaps??

[smokey the elder]

Folks, please keep in mind the one-dimensionality (is that even a word?) of the written word without vocal or body language cues. If I see something dodgy, I just think about it first.

Hijack alert: There are some things said (I won't get specific to protect the guilty) that really rub me the wrong way, but then I realize that opinions are like...you know. Everyone has one and they all stink to someone!