Deleted my thread

[Karen]

HUH? In the thread itself, several people commented on it, and you defended it by saying something along the lines of "I would have said lady parts, not much different...". Whatever would give anyone the idea that you would have asked her to re-word it had the request been sent to you privately when you already supported it publically?

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to decipher that the thread title was offensive. Come on. Can't you EVER give ES a tiny break?

If the request had been made when the thread was first posted, Jess and I could have made the change before so many people decided to post about it. I have a PM into her now, and we can still make the change. I knew when I first saw the title what she meant, and also thought it was worded a bit harshly, but did not know people would take offense at it. Communication is the key! I cannot read minds.

I do have a request in with her to change the title, for the record, she's just not online at the moment.

[Cataholic]

The first 'request' was made by someone last night, followed by another post early this am, and to that one you gave your public 'blessing' on it. ES had nothing to do with people thinking it off. Nothing at all. Why jump on her?

[Karen]

The first 'request' was made by someone last night, followed by another post early this am, and to that one you gave your public 'blessing' on it. ES had nothing to do with people thinking it off. Nothing at all. Why jump on her?

I did not intend to imply my "blessing." Often what offends one person would not offend another - I could give about a bazillion examples of this in the art world, for example.

I responded to ES's post simply, pointing out that she brought something from an unrelated thread unto this thread. I did not mean it as an attack on ES, just a correction for the future.

I'm not trying to attack anyone, just trying to keep some order!

[Cataholic]

I did not intend to imply my "blessing." Often what offends one person would not offend another - I could give about a bazillion examples of this in the art world, for example.

I responded to ES's post simply, pointing out that she brought something from an unrelated thread unto this thread. I did not mean it as an attack on ES, just a correction for the future.

I'm not trying to attack anyone, just trying to keep some order!

Whatever does that mean, a correction for the future??? There were other posts in here that came from an unrelated thread into this one. The veggie salad one comes to mind immediately. I think I posted that first, or maybe it was Asiel? I know I didn't receive an public reprimand. The fact was, ES was being supportive of the OP by pointing out that others have made offensive types of comments that didn't draw the ire of the crowd...and she had every technological ability to carry with the quoted piece the name of the author, something she did not do.

I just don't get the double standard'ish treatments at all, nothing that I haven't shared with you in the past, albeit privately. When I see it so blatently displayed here, I can't help but say something. Your board, your rules, but I can dislike the disparate treatment all the way to the bank.

[Karen]

Whatever does that mean, a correction for the future?

It was just the most blatant example. And the "correction for the future" meant, "next time do it differently" - that's what I meant.

I felt the "veggie salad" comments were pertinent to this thread, as they were made by the original poster of this thread, Marigold.

The "lady guts" was a different thread from a different person, unrelated to Marigold.

[Killearn Kitties]

I felt the "veggie salad" comments were pertinent to this thread, as they were made by the original poster of this thread, Marigold.

Really Karen, are you saying that if you are the originator of the thread, anything goes?

I cannot tell you how upset I would be if that were the case.

[Karen]

Really Karen, are you saying that if you are the originator of the thread, anything goes?

I cannot tell you how upset I would be if that were the case.

No, I was saying that as the thread was about Marigold's posts being upsetting to people, mentioning other posts of hers that bothered you would be pertinent to the thread at hand.

Does that explain it better?

In any case the thread about Cam getting spayed has been deleted by the poster.

[shais_mom]

I don't understand the hand slap to Sara but yet Marigold can commit virtual murder and nothing is said??

back to facebook

[Karen]

I don't understand the hand slap to Sara but yet Marigold can commit virtual murder and nothing is said??

back to facebook

Staci, just because you don't see everything I do, doesn't mean I do nothing!

[Asiel]

I don't understand the hand slap to Sara but yet Marigold can commit virtual murder and nothing is said??

back to facebook

Very well said , I've noticed a lot of back stabbing here myself lately and for no reason at all. This is supposed to be an open forum where one can dicuss but it seems nobody can disagree with certain tasteless posts without being attacked and the whole thing turns nasty.
I for one was highly hurt by that "veggie salad" term but ignored it for fear of "hurting" a drama queen.

[shais_mom]

thanks Asiel.

[RICHARD]

[Bonny]

Richard you have been around Orc to long.

[RICHARD]

Richard you have been around Orc to long.

The ORC would not put up with my sense of humor.

Personally?

I stopped being offended at being offended because someone was more offended than I was offended.

Or something like that.


My favorite line in the first Terminator movie was,

"Honey, Don't worry about it, In one hundred years no one will care...."

Being offended inspires me to look at the situation and laugh.

With all due respect to the people who have posted on the thread and about the thread?

In 99 years, 11 months , 28 days, 23 hours and 59 minutes no one will care or remember what I have posted or thought.

With that in mind, I don't think it really is worth getting my dander up.

What offends me now, will make me laugh tomorrow.


Did you know I have a giant pimple on my forehead today.

Tomorrow?

Who knows.

[RICHARD]

Now? I am getting offended....

Not saying anything curry favor from any one 'faction' or trying to suck up.


In all the time I have been here I have reminded myself that I am a 'guest' on this board. I have done and posted stupid things, been run thru the wringer for some, edited and reminded that my behavior wasn't up to snuff for the site.

That said?

It didn't keep me from having fun or thinking of ways to sneak in a double entendre, joke or resorting to the lowest common denominator to get a laugh.


I think that I have offended everyone on this site at least once, twice and have some people into the double digits. I look at that and really mesure that person by the way they react to me on other threads.

I have been offended by posts/threads in the past and somehow I have survived this long.


I think what people do not see is that there are ways to bring up a subject and by being smart, funny and tactful about it, it can survive the scrutiny of people that would be offended in the real world.

"My rule of "THUMB"?

When you want to put something up on the bulletin board?

Sometimes a push-pin is better than a sledgehammer and a brad.

Get it?

Pushpin? Hammer? Thumb?


With the pin/tack approach, the board stays up, people don't get pi$$ed off about you knocking it off the wall, and they get to read what you wrote and even answer.

The I HAVE BEEN "INDIGNICATED" act gets old after a while.

With that? I'll end with my mom's wisdom and POV.


Who cares what anybody does, as long as the do not use MY arse to do it.


Carry on, have a nice day and remember to be a DO BEE, not a DON'T Bee.

To be or not to be.
Be all you can be!
And
Do bee, Do bee, Do.......

You guys rock.