Woman aims for 1000 pound weight goal

[Catherinedana]

This is very unfortunate. I am always saddened that women are so damaged by society's expectations of beauty that they are willing to hurt themselves further, either physically, psychologically or both, to feel "beautiful" or worthy of love. I am also a plus size woman, but even though I am not nearly as large as the woman in this article, I have been subject to negative feedback. One thing that stands out in my mind is when I was working with an acupuncturist regarding fatigue and weight loss. He heard my music and said, "Wow! I didn't realize how talented you are! Your voice is fantastic! Now lets try to get you camera-ready, otherwise you won't go anywhere with this." Thanks dude. Needless to say I don't go to him anymore and my husband, who was there at the time, had a few choice words for him as well. So far, I have been successful and have a wonderful fan base close to home. That's ok with me - I'm not looking to be the next American Idol. I just want to make music.

Don't be cruel regarding this woman's issues - she feels she has nothing else to offer since she cannot live up to the standards of beauty. Those of you who have never had issues with weight do not understand. It's not as simple as "go on a diet" or "just stop eating so much". As with any addiction, there are both organic and psychological issues that must be addressed. And sometimes it can only be "corrected" to a certain point. There is a huge prejudice for fat people and it makes me sad.

[pomtzu]

Cathy..

There's a big difference between being plus size, even tho you might choose to be otherwise, than being intentionally morbidly obese.

This woman needs her head examined! She killing herself, and probably seriously endangering the welfare (physical & mental, present & future), of her children. CPS should step in and take those kids out of that unhealthy environment. They take kids away from hoarders until/if, they get their lives back in order. The same should apply here - IMO.

[Catherinedana]

guess I'm looking for the reason and not seeing the act. Yes, she has to be very unwell to want to do that to herself, you are right. Still think it's sad.

[Catty1]

That was my point too...I deal with a junk food addiction on a daily basis. Successfully 90% of the time.

Even if, as this woman says, she didn't really mean it, to seek attention by saying something of this sort shows something wrong in the head.

Substitute alcohol for food in that scenario - complete with the enabling spouse - and the headspace involved gets really scary.

If she got help and still happened to be plus-sized, cool. I know there are a whole whack of people who frequent clubs with plus size people and the people who go to 'pick them up'. There is self acceptance and acceptance by others, and then there is promoting and encouraging more of the behaviour that is bound to end up badly for purely physiological reasons.

Poor kids!

[cassiesmom]

The public is enabling her. People who pay to watch her eat and bathe are part of the problem.

[Medusa]

I am always saddened that women are so damaged by society's expectations of beauty that they are willing to hurt themselves further, either physically, psychologically or both, to feel "beautiful" or worthy of love.

Don't be cruel regarding this woman's issues - she feels she has nothing else to offer since she cannot live up to the standards of beauty. Those of you who have never had issues with weight do not understand. It's not as simple as "go on a diet" or "just stop eating so much". As with any addiction, there are both organic and psychological issues that must be addressed. And sometimes it can only be "corrected" to a certain point. There is a huge prejudice for fat people and it makes me sad.

Society gets the blame for everything, it seems, nowadays. I taught exercise/aerobics classes to morbidly obese women for years. They're called "morbidly" obese for a reason, b/c the morbidity rate is much higher than those who are simply "obese". The women that I taught w/o exception told me that they wanted to lose weight for themselves and not b/c society says that they must or their husbands are unhappy or whatever. They all said that they feel better when their weight is down and looking better (in their eyes) is a plus. She's purposely gaining weight b/c she's found her hook, i.e., what can generate income for her w/o giving up her food.


Who says that she feels she has nothing else to offer b/c she cannot live up to the standards of beauty? If she said that, I missed it. We coddle and nurture our weaknesses rather than try to change. We use words such as "curvy", "voluptuous", "plus size", "glandular", "big boned","cultural","foodie" rather than saying "fat" b/c we don't want to be looked upon as being cruel. So are there no more fat people in the world now?

The women in my classes never made excuses for themselves. They worked really hard to get the weight off and keep it off. We'd review what they had eaten for the week and I can recall one woman writing on her food list "11 bags of noodles". I said "Did you mean to write "11 helpings?" and she said "No, I ate 11 bags". The only thing I could think of to say was "Why?" She said "I love noodles". I said "So do I but 11 bags?" She said "I know. But you want me to be honest". I asked if she was depressed and that's the reason for eating so much. She said "I'm depressed b/c I'm fat, not fat b/c I'm depressed".

We can make excuses forever but unless and until we stop doing that, obesity will always be a problem. Obesity will become the new normal. We all have our weaknesses; w/some it's food, w/others it's alcohol or drugs or sex or shopping or whatever. None of us is perfect so we can't point a finger at anyone else for their weaknesses. However, this woman is generating income from her overindulgent eating and there are those who are pandering to her. How discouraging to those who are trying so hard to get their eating under control.

[Cataholic]

Don't be cruel regarding this woman's issues - she feels she has nothing else to offer since she cannot live up to the standards of beauty. Those of you who have never had issues with weight do not understand. It's not as simple as "go on a diet" or "just stop eating so much". As with any addiction, there are both organic and psychological issues that must be addressed. And sometimes it can only be "corrected" to a certain point. There is a huge prejudice for fat people and it makes me sad.

Amen. The stereotypes just run amok when it comes to obesity. Everyone has the answer for the one struggling with their weight. Frankly, if the one's answer WAS the answer for all, wouldn't all be doing it by now?

Having a laugh at another's expense is wrong. No matter how you dress it up.