I can certainly understand your husband's frustration at your kitty's behavior. There's nothing worse than cat smell when they inappropriately pee and poop. Nothing. He may have said that out of sheer frustration. Believe me, I've even said that I wanted to toss my cat Specs out the window when he was peeing but, of course, I didn't mean it. We say things that we don't mean when we don't know what to do and/or when we feel helpless and ineffectual. Please take your kitty to the vet. Once you determine whether or not it's a physical reason causing the behavior, there are meds that you can give your cat for behavioral issues. I have 4 cats on meds for inappropriate peeing and it's wonderful around here now. They've had no bad side effects from it either and my house is a poop-and-pee-free zone. LOL