Gonna be an EXPENSIVE new year!

[Medusa]

I was in a relationship w/a man w/BPD and believe me, it was no picnic. I was beginning to think that I was the one w/the problem until I started researching on the internet and when I approached him on the subject, he admitted that a psychologist told him that he was BPD and he had been having phone counseling sessions for years. I still tried to make it work but, as you say, there is no cure, only treatment, and they have to want it. He didn't want it and I'd had enough of his manipulation so I ended the relationship. It's an even tougher situation w/you because it's family. I don't envy you but I admire your courage and strength.

[moosmom]

I don't envy you but I admire your courage and strength

You are one strong person, Kim. If all the crap you've been through didn't dampen your spirits, I say you've made it. You're a stronger person than I am. Your "tough love" and your commitment to Grant are to be commended. Have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas!!

[kimlovescats]

You know that I for one know exactly what you are going through. I hope and pray that Ashley will learn and grow once she moves out but you also know how many times my daughter kept coming back and forth. I think we finally have made it clear that she can't do that anymore. It breaks my heart but she refuses to get the help she needs or stay on her medication. EVEN WHEN IT WAS FREE!!!! THAT is where it is frustrating .... the illness is not her fault but you can only help a person as much as you can, then they HAVE to realize they need to help themselves. My daughter is still mooching off of everyone she can find, and although she loves her baby girl, she is nowhere near to trying to make a life for them together.

My heart goes out to you all, Kim!

[carole]

Kim i think you have been to hell and back with this young lady, and I am sorry you have been under so much stress,but I am so happy for you that she is finally making the move,and you have been so good to her, better than she deserves by the sound of things, I do have empathy for her too, but wish she would see that she has an illness and get the help she so needs, maybe with maturity she may well see this herself one day, hugs to you both and I hope that life will be better from now on.