Update at our household

[Medusa]

That wasn't an easy thing for you to do, leaving your dad. But you are NOT abandoning him, although I'm sure his facial expression and the look in his eyes made you feel as though you were. I think we've either all been there or we're close to someone who has been there and it's no easy road to travel, that's for sure. But when you said that the administrator took him under her wing, I'm sure you felt better, at least for a little anyhow. It'll take time for everyone to adjust and it will get better. Take care of yourself and rest that hand for a while. Let people wait on you. (Yeah, I know.)

[Barbara]

I am so sorry, Bunny. After my mom passed away last year, the worst time I had was because I felt so guilty. She was in a nursing home the last weeks - a very good one and they were all very very nice with her- the care was much better than anything I could have done- but still..........
And then on top of all that your hand. A carpal tunnel syndrome can be fixed by surgery rather easily if all else doesn't help. My dad had it on both hands and I also know a lady (a cello player) who had it- and did very well.
But of course you don't need it right now.
It is ok to be a little egoistic- and yes, if it helps to yell here, than go for it

And if you have some time, give us some new pics of the kitties

[moosmom]

Oh Bunny, when you wrote about the look on your Dad's face and how heartbroken you felt, I cried. You're trying to help your Dad be independent while be monitored, which I think is a good idea, given his history.

I think that by making his room "homier" with old pictures of himself and your Mom, family stuff that'll make him feel good. How about a favorite chair?? I see alot of rooms with chairs, dressers, etc. Whatever it takes to make him happy. Give him some time. Sure he's pissed. But there are alot of other people his age there. Ya never know. My grandfather found a girlfriend at the ripe age of 85! Even if it's just someone to hang with and reminisce with. It's gonna take time. But I think it'll work out. Don't forget visits. They're very important too.

(((((((HUGS)))))))))

Donna