Update at our household

[dukedogsmom]

I'm so sorry you're going through all of that. I know it must be very hard with your dad, for everyone. The community sounds really nice and it sounds like you wouldn't have to worry about him as much there as at a regular facility. I hope Lucky is better now. Did you find out what was wrong? I hope you can get some peace in your life soon.

[Barbara]

Oh Bunny, that's a lot on your plate right now.
It is so difficult to deal with parents when you have to take over the parent role.
And Lucky- I hope you find out what's wrong with him.
I hope little Taz can support you in just being young and funny.
Hugs to you and Tim.

[catmandu]

That Is A Hard Step For Your Dad To Make, As Hes Afraid That He Will Lsoe His Independance. I Know That I Will Not Enjoy Going Into A Seniors Home. I Pray Taht You Can Convince Him And Hopefully They Will Bend A Little Bit And Not Have Hard And Fast Rules About Everything.
And We Pray That The Whie Coats Can Help Your Friends, Its So Sad When They Are Not Well.

[Freedom]

Lucky: how often do you feed? Can you add an extra meal in somehow? Some (not all ) of my older cats just needed to keep something in the stomach to prevent the bile vomiting. Don't know why, but if all the blood work looks good, that may be a solution to try.

I sympathize with you and your Dad and the situation. Not sure I can give any guidance. According to MY Dad, he was "kidnapped," one Saturday. When he refused to come, I told him "That's OK. I 'll take all your clothes, and when you are ready for a change let me know."

That is not exactly what happened . . . .

[rg_girlca]

I am so sorry that your life is so stressful right now and pray that you are able to get the placement for your Dad. Last year, my cousin had to arrange for her Mom, my favorite aunt, to be placed in a nursing home and my aunt just hated it at first. It took her about 3 months to get use to the idea and now she is so happy to have so many friends she can talk to and to take part in the activiites that they have planned on a daily basis. She is not alone anymore and enjoying her life once again.
I pray that your Dad will feel like this also.

Prayers on the way for your precious Lucky, that whatever is bothering him, isn't serious and can be dealt with, with the proper medication.

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} for you Bunny.

[moosmom]

Bunny,

There is nothing worse than a stubborn, ornery old man who refuses give up his independence and accept help. Sounds just like my Dad did. Are you SURE we're not sisters????

Seriously though, I do understand what you're going through. My father was so stubborn. Wanted to live alone (after stepmom died) with his cat, which put a whole lot of stress and burden on me. I worked 40-60 hours a week as a paralegal then had to go and care for my Dad. Not only did it take a toll on my health and depression, it also caused alot of resentment because, on top of all this, my Dad was a serious alcoholic. After years of trying to get him to go to an AA meeting, I stopped arguing. When he died 10 years ago, as much as I love and miss him, I was relieved, which is what my therapist said would happen.

Please take care of yourself. You will be no good to your Dad or anyone else if your health fails. You've got my number, call me.

(((((HUGS))))))))

[Catsnclay]

Hi everyone!!

Well I have some good news and of course you just have to have some bad news too !

The "good" news is, we took dad to his new home. We talked about it several times before Saturday, but of course he didn't remember. He was all dressed up, took a shower and really looked neat & clean when we got there, but at first didn't want to go. We finally convinced him to get into the car.....it was the longest car ride in my life! Both Tim & I knew exactly where we were going but I'm not too sure dad did!

We got there, started walking arond introducing him to everything, showed him his new room last, and that is when it hit him. And it hit hard. The look on his face just broke my heart, but I also knew that it was the right thing to do.

He got reallly upset, just as we thought and the administrator just took him under her wing and they went out to the garden for a smoke while we left. I did really good.......until I got into the car . That's when all my emotions came pouring out. Tim was great though - as usual

I saw him on Sunday and he begged me to get him out of there. I was going to bring him more clothes today but was told not to go....he goes in and out of being mad/upset. Tomorrow my (wonderful) sister & I are going to go back to his house to get things to fix up his room to make it more likie "home" - hopefully we can do that peacefully 7 quickly. As you can gather we don't get along that ghreat. She thinks I am "throwing" him into a pit or something.

As for the cats, well Lucky is doning better he is still vomiting but not nearly as much. As Freedom suggested, we are feeding him little portions more often. Seems to help! I really, really don't want to do the ultrasound on him!!

Yoshi hasn't pee'd in the last 7 - 10 days.......(hope I didn't jinx anything! ) And Taz is still being a bratty little sister.

Now for the "bad" news......

I saw my orthopeadic doctor today, apparently that sore thumb/hand I have and keep thinking will get better, wont.

I have CMC of the thumb, or degenerative arthritis (aka osteoarthritis) of the thumb carpo-metacarpal joint.

Apparently it is a common problem for woman in the 5th decade of their life - - ok so old age sucks!!!!! LOL

I got a steroid shot in the thumb and know wear a protective brace - in my terms: I can't use my friggin right hand!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Do you know how hard this is???!!!!! And this sure showed up at the wrong time!

Ok, I'm sorry! I just needed to vent. Didn't mean to yell at anyone!!

Well, that's my news. Thank you all for the prayers, I know my dad is much better off now -even though he doesn't think so. Time will be on his side, once we get his room looking like his place I think that will help. I don't know how I will be able to move his things tomorrow, but I sure hope my (wonderful) sister will be in a good mood and be helpful!!!

Thank you, thank yoou, thank you all!!!!!!

Bunny - the new left handed person!!