Advice - I don't know how to handle this & prayers, please.

[M&M's Mommy]

Email this thread to him. Call him on the phone so you both can hear each other's voices. Send him a "care package".. in which you can put your pictures, a love letter to him to express your feeling of concerns, a CD to lift his mood, some cookies... These are just some example, of course you can put in there anything you want... The point is to let him know that you love him, and you do care so much about him.

It sucks being apart when you need each other close, but remember, Wind is to fire like distance is to love; it extinguishes the small and enflames the great. -- Anonymous

[Lilith Cherry]

Lots of prayers and good thoughts for all of you, especially Mike's brother! Just be "there" for Mike whenever he may want to talk about it; I have a husband who finds it very hard to open up and share his feelings but he knows I am always there with lots of love and sympathy anyway. Good luck Rachel!

[NoahsMommy]

I would stress honesty and communication. Don't pressure him to open up to you, that's something HE needs to do in HIS time. Any pressure or guilt on your part will make this scary time for him and his family MUCH worse. Him not opening up to you does NOT mean that you don't have a good relationship, this is how HE deals with things like this. <---You really need to take this to heart.

I would just let him know that you are here for him, in any possible way. That you are here if he needs to talk, yell, cry, or just talk about a subject so far away from his brother possible, etc. Just knowing you are there and care unconditionally, is what he needs. Tell him that he doesn't need to worry about you at this time, he is free to spend his time, emotions, strength, energy on his brother and his family. That when things get better, you'll still be there too.

Put yourself in his shoes and I don't think you'll go wrong at all.

I'm sorry his brother has cancer. I hope and pray the surgery is very, very successful and that he feels lots better because of it. I'll keep you and his family in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kelly