Address Etiquette for "blended" families?

[kittycats_delight]

I have also heard it like Cindy mentioned. I think it is like when a woman takes her husbands name but keeps her own as well so it would be like the The Smith Doe Family. I believe hyphenated or not that just depends on personal preference. I would also not use first names as it makes one person seem more important than another so I would say The Smith Family for example.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I usually address my cards as:
Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith and family

[Freedom]

My friend Kathy did not change her name when she was married. So the she is Kathy Smith; her hubby is Davey Jones and the kids are all Jones.

Since Kathy is the one who opens any letters / cards from me (she knows from the return address label) I just send it to Kathy Smith. Then inside the ard, I list the names.

Birthday cards to the kids get addressed to the kids.

I haven't a lcue what the "etiquette" is, but since she is a good friend, this works. (I put Mr. & Mrs. Jones and Family once and got a phone call. The only Mrs. Jones is his mom.)

[Karen]

I would address it as follows

Jane Smith and John Doe
& Sam, Jessica and Teddy (kid's names, no last name, on a second line)
10 Main Street
Anytown, MX 01825

Or "The Whole Family at"
10 Main Street
Anytown, MX 01825

[Lady's Human]

From a technical standpoint, as opposed to an etiquette standpoint, however you do it be sure to keep the names to the first two lines. Otherwise it confuses the heck out of the OCR that sorts the mail.

[Husky_mom]

if sent here.....

It woudl be like: Mr. John Doe and Mrs.

or Mr. and Mrs. Doe

or Mr. John Doe and Family

or Mr. John Doe and Jane Smith

or Family Doe Smith

[chocolatepuppy]

Since Kathy is the one who opens any letters / cards from me (she knows from the return address label) I just send it to Kathy Smith. Then inside the ard, I list the names.

That's what I do also. Any other situations I usually do what ever I want anymore, I'm tired of trying to figure it out!

[Edwina's Secretary]

I am a member of a family where the anglo-saxon naming tradition is not often followed. So here are my rules...

Husband and wife with different last names..both first and last names.

Husband and wife with different last names and children..."The Family Jones"...

If I only know one of the spouses well...to the spouse I know.

If I do not know them well enough to know how I should address them...do I know them well enough to send a card????

[Catty1]

This is a realtor's database - some are clients and some are friends(most are clients! )

Thank you all for the input. Gives me some common sense to go by!

[Twisterdog]

I just did my Christmas cards, so this is actually fresh in my mind.

I don't put any kids' names on the envelopes, only the adults.

If everyone has the same last name I put "The Smith Family" if they have kids at home or "John and Jane Smith" if they don't.

If they have different last names I put "John Smith and Jane Jones".