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My poor sweet dad suffered from Parkinson's for many years. Unfortunately, the breakthrough meds also cause paranoia, hallucinations etc. It was dreadful.
Fortunately, years before he got worse, he knew enough to see an ElderMed lawyer who helped us arrange the family finances so nothing would be taken by the government. I strongly suggest that you contact the ElderMed Association for a lawyer near you. It's a lot of paperwork etc., but trust me when I tell you that it's lifesaving.
Dad was a mess one night and we couldn't awake him so called 911 and he was diagnosed with pneumonia. From there, we had to put him in a nursing home (sob) because he couldn't walk and needed more care than we could give. Meanwhile my mother was getting ill but refused medical treatment because dad was her whole life. After he passed she finally had tests done and it was downhill from there for 2 1/2 years. I home cared her after I got laid off and had her in nursing facilities only while I recuped from 2 surgeries. I fought the state for "respite care" because she was a few dollars over the qualified assistance amount, but, d***nit! I got it for her. She passed 11 days after my spine surgery and never saw me well.
My aunt has dementia, brought on from hardened arteries in her brain. She'd call my mom all during the night to say there were people at her window, at the door etc. My uncle slept because she was hiding under the table while on the phone with mom. My unk desperately tried to get her to the doctor. He finally did because she caught a cold or something, and it was hospital and nursing home from there. If your dad goes to a facility straight from the hospital, it's covered for a few months by Medicare.
Maybe you can tell him it's time for his physical? You and his girlfriend will have to devise something, because he may hurt himself and/or others. It's very very sad and my heart aches for you. My best friend's mom has Alzheimers and went beserk today at the eye doctors. She cried and screamed when she went to the nursing home, but now, doesn't know anything and thinks she's home.
So, I know what you're going through. I'm so sorry. You cannot take care of him yourself. Phone his doctor and ask for advise. I'm sure he'll be pleased to help you. Most important right now is to fix his finances first.
oops..lost my purple..got carried away..sorry..but this hit so close to home and I was trying to help. PM me if you want. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Hugs to you
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