Unfortunately, this is one of the hazards of forums, chat, IMing, etc. We can't take into account body language, facial expressions, etc. which is why emoticons are used but it just isn't the same thing. I try not to get personally involved; I come here for education and to educate, for encouragement and to encourage, for prayers and to pray. We're supposed to be here for our cats. Hopefully, she'll reconsider and come back to PT. It's a wonderful forum but it has its limitations as do all things in life. Prayers going out that she reads this and joins us again........