Need to Rant

[Glacier]

Not selfish at all. I'd say your BIL is the selfish one!

You will find the D80, especially with a 70-300 lens on it, is hard to carry some places and there are places you just won't want to take it. It's a big, heavy camera, it's expensive and you won't want to risk damaging it. I love my d80. It takes a fabulous picture, but I bought a D40 as a back-up camera. Taking the D80 on the dogsled or kayak is not going to happen! Stuart has my Olympus Stylus now and I sometimes miss that little camera!

[cyber-sibes]

so... your BIL does not have the camera, right? (I couldn't tell if he ended up walking off with it or not)

It's yours, hubby has no right to give it away, even to his brother. He gave it to YOU.
I think it makes a lot of sense to have more than one camera. They each have their advantages & disadvantages. The more the merrier! (we've got at least three that get used regularly)

EDIT - I know how it feels - my ex-husband gave away all the really lovely things my mom gave to my kids when they were small to several "friends" of his - and of course, never got them back. (Beautifully made things, including a carved wooden high chair, rocking horses, a big metal ride 'em fire truck, and several Disney tapes, & more). I was so upset as my mother had passed away & all these gifts had special memories - I intended to keep several of them for the day I had grandchildren. Never saw them again. I'm still p-o'd about it, and it's been twenty years!

[moosmom]

I'd be PO'd too. It was not hubby's place to give it to his brother. It was YOUR anniversary gift. No means no. His brother was also in the wrong asking hubby for it after you said no. I hope you get it back.

[Catlady711]

I have 4 cameras right now, never got rid of my others when I get new ones. My hubby knows never ever to give away any of my cameras without asking first. However with other things my hubby frequently does stuff like that.

I think as far as hubby's are concerned (no offence to any hubby's on PT) is that if they want something new and get it, they don't have any reason to keep the old one so they don't think that anyone else would mind either.

I think something like this should be discussed, calmly, with your hubby and if your BIL already has the camera I'd make your hubby be the one to go pick it up from him and have to explain his mistake to him. JMHO

[Logan]

I think I'd be upset, too. Well, in reality, I'd be furious! It was yours to give or keep and the decision should be yours.

[Laura's Babies]

I'd be FUMING!!!!! Did you tell your hubby that he had already asked you and you said "NO!" ?.... I'd take the camera back and let him know "I already told you NO and this is not his camera to give ANYBODY!!". That is sleezy going behind your back and asking after you already told him no!

Then hubby and I would have a talk about what BIL did after you told him NO... I would inform him in no uncertain terms that any gift given is MINE and not his to give anybody no matter WHO it is and if asked he should refer all beggers wanting YOUR property, to ask YOU!

I would get that camera back and hubby would have to go get it from his sleezy brother! Ooooooooo! That would have me so HOT!

[Daisy and Delilah]

Bottom line: It's your camera and you should be the person that decides what should happen to it. No one else owns it but you, Michelle.

I would be pretty upset myself if I were in your shoes.