My uncle passed away :(

[Rachel]

PCB, I am so sorry that you have to experience this loss in your family. I understand your thoughts and feelings of dispair, but I think your uncle would not want his death to also take away your own zest for life. Yes, you will miss him and grieve for him, that is as it should be, but you should also try to think about the things he held in high regard and find how they can translate into your own life.

The fact that your uncle had a condition that caused a heart attack at an early age is something that your family may need to take into consideration when it comes to being aware of dietary and lifestyle choices. I say that in an attempt to find some sense of direction in this very sad, tragic loss.

[Alysser]

I am so sorry for this sudden loss in your family. I'll be praying for you. (((hugs)))

[Sevaede]

*HUGS* I am sorry for your loss.

[CountryWolf07]

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

"Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And a thought crosses my mind
If I never wake in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
She must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
She must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes.." - Garth Brooks

This song comes to mind..

[Ginger's Mom]

I am sorry for your loss, PCB. It is never easy, especially when one so young dies so suddenly. All the more reason to make the most out of the time that we have here, and to tell the people that you love how you feel. {{{Hugs}}}

[Edwina's Secretary]

I am so sorry PCB....a very young man indeed...

[ramanth]

So very sorry for your loss.

[kimlovescats]

Very sad and tragic! So very sorry! Hugs to you and his grief-stricken family!

Kim

[popcornbird]

Thanks so much everyone for your kind words. It really means a lot to me.

The fact that your uncle had a condition that caused a heart attack at an early age is something that your family may need to take into consideration when it comes to being aware of dietary and lifestyle choices. I say that in an attempt to find some sense of direction in this very sad, tragic loss.

I understand what you're saying and completely agree. My paternal grandfather also died from a heart attack. I believe he was around 60 when he died. Now my uncle...

My other uncle (dad's oldest brother) also had heart problems. He has had two open heart surgeries, and is doing well, thank God. He also flew to Canada from England for my uncle's funeral.

My uncle that passed away, sadly, was a chain smoker his entire life...I believe from the time he was a teenager. My dad said he used to take too much influence from his 'friends', and would do whatever they did and never listened to the family. Not only did he smoke...he smoked a LOT. A few years ago, he stopped for awhile, but eventually went right back to it.

For some strange reason, my uncle had a strange fear of doctors, and would NEVER go for a check up. He had no idea he had such high cholestrol levels, and over 90% blockage in all four arteries. These were the results we got in his atopsy, but since he never visited the doctor, he never knew. We ALL knew something was wrong with him though. For the past 6 - 7 years, everytime we'd see my uncle and go for a walk with him, he would end up running out of breath and returning home. We tried SO hard to get him to the doctor. Nothing worked. His wife said he made her swear that she wouldn't take him to the doctor even if something ever happens to him.

Somehow, my uncle thought that because his father died at a hospital, anyone who goes to the doctor ends up dying. Now we all wish we had tried even harder to get him to the doctor. When someone's stubborn, somehow people just end up giving up.

My parents/all of their siblings do visit the doctor, and stay updated with their health. I don't know why my uncle refused to go, but I honestly don't think he had a full check up in decades. I hurt so much for his wife and children. My cousin was such a 'daddy's little girl', and he loved her SO much.

To those of you who are fortunate to still have your parents, I know there are times when you feel like you just can't get along with them. Cherish them, love them, respect them, for as long as you have them. You never know when mom and dad won't be there for you anymore.