Do I have an option?

[Marigold2]

Gosh this is so tough. I completely understand how you feel. Sometimes your heart is in two places. But of course we can only be in one. Good luck to you. I am sure which ever way you decide you will be happy and successfull.

[catnapper]

Move. I HATED moving my sophomore year of highschool. It was awful. I hated the new town, the new people, the new everything.... but then I got to know people and know my way around town and I realized the move was the best thing ever!

Life is all about changes and new experiences. If you fear and shy away from change now, then you'll have a much harder time dealing with it when you're older... and I'm not just talking about big stuff like changing jobs and getting married, moving, etc. I know people who can't even change their email account just because its different (hubby ) If you don't embrase change and look forward to new things then you'll miss out on lots of new experiences and people you'd never even dream of!

[Toby's my baby]

Move. I HATED moving my sophomore year of highschool. It was awful. I hated the new town, the new people, the new everything.... but then I got to know people and know my way around town and I realized the move was the best thing ever!

Life is all about changes and new experiences. If you fear and shy away from change now, then you'll have a much harder time dealing with it when you're older... and I'm not just talking about big stuff like changing jobs and getting married, moving, etc. I know people who can't even change their email account just because its different (hubby ) If you don't embrase change and look forward to new things then you'll miss out on lots of new experiences and people you'd never even dream of!

Even if it is out in the desert, 30 miles away from any towns, all the drugy kids (this is what we were told) live out where our house is going to be, the school is gigantic (1000 ppl per grade level) and I hate it even more every time we go out there?

It is really nice to hear your advice though, especially since at first you hated it (like i will) but then you loved it. Maybe that could possibly happen to me.. I love new changes actually, just this one, I dont know it feels like there is something somewhere that is telling me to stay here and that moving is wrong. I dont know...

[Reachoutrescue]

I am nobody to tell you what to do. But, my advice is follow your heart. Use your gut instinct. My folks live in Arizona and I moved with them back in '99...I didn't want to go, but my kids' dad was working with my dad and I had no choice. Or so I thought. Well, I came back to Illinois about six months later (due to a pregnancy and needed my original doctor). If I had ended up going back, leaving my "home" in Illinois, I would have never met Dave and started my rescue. Things happen for a reason. I think you should talk to your parents, just you and your parents. Wait to talk to your sister. Have a heart to heart with them. Maybe you could stay with a relative and finish school, go out there on breaks and summer, then maybe move out there after school with your boyfriend. There are options. Just keep an open mind either way. Good luck. I hope I helped a little.

By the way, not to confuse you more, but Arizona is not too bad. It is always summer, even in winter. It is much cheaper out there and it is not all desert!! I still like Illinois better!