How Do You Handle This?

[gini]

Funny you should start this thread, Val. I had this happen to me about two years ago. I was floored.........but then I realized that even though I was hurt, part of it was my own fault for not seeing the person as they really were.

Life does go on - and belly rubs for certain dogs - do ease the stress

[columbine]

As a card-carrying Lousy Judge of Character, I've been there many times. All you can do is shrug it off, say, "Whoops, I made a really bad mistake for a really long time," and go on. Once you've healed a bit, if you want to you can try to go back through the events that led up to the betrayal to see if you can identify patterns to look out for in the future. But in the end, people are unpredictable. We Earthlings have wildly divergent ideas about what "friend" means, and it's not uncommon to learn that way, way too late. You weren't stupid or in denial - it's just part of the human condition.

Love, Columbine

[SunsetRose]

Awww, I'm so sorry you are going through that. Lots of hugs your way and Rosie sends a big slobbery kiss and a head nudge

We've all probably been stabbed in the back at least once in our life. I've been backstabbed more than once and it really is upsetting.

The best thing is just to forgive them and try to move on. You can't go through life refusing to trust somebody because your afraid of being backstabbed. That would be a sad, lonely, miserable life to live. You never realize how many opportunities you miss in life because your too busy being worried about the consequences or to afraid of being hurt again. Somebody wronged you, but you can't let that bring you down.