" One Uppers" ran amuck in the post office. What I noticed was- ( now take this for what its worth) Cybersibes is very close.. They are trying to show there is common ground, and know what you are saying to encourage more conversation... Or a way of assurance- like the one that stated about medical procedures- they think by having worse- you wont worry as much.. What they do NOT realize is that to us its like- they do not care about what you think- .. They do not see that. ..
What I did was acknowledge what they are saying with what "THEY MEAN" - not how it comes across to you.. Like.. well I had surgery so in so- they come back with a " one upper" and your response is... ( ready?) " wow- that must have worried you- how did you handle it.. " ( just be prepared and have time for the response" .. Or even just a " I see..." ...
ONe uppers are common in the dog world- even more so- " OH I see- yes he was a wonderful dog".. sticking to the point of the change in the conversation only.. ..