My sister-in-law

[sumbirdy]

No, she's always been this way but it just bothers me more now because she's this way towards Nathan.

[Blue_Frog]

Well, it sounds like she didn't want a baby in the first place, and doesn't want anything to do with him now. She'd be better off giving him up - either to your parents as primary caregivers if thats what they would want, or to adoption. Its unfair that she would use the baby just to get an apartment.

Maybe talk to your parents, if they are concerned about her behaviour around the baby, maybe a nanny-cam of some sort might be a good idea? At least then they might know for sure if she's doing something to make the baby afraid of her.

[WolvesRawk]

Poor little baby....I hate irresponsible parents who have kids for their own personal gain and then don't care a bit about them. I agree, get a nanny cam to at least find out why he's so scared.

[Sophist]

Be careful taking some of these suggestions... if you do something to make her want to keep Nathan from you and your parents, he may not have any proper care at all. She sounds like someone who would be willing to use the baby as leverage or against you guys. Play as nice as possible for the little one's sake.

[Catty1]

Can your parents not talk to the case worker? Can your brother - who already had doubts about Stephanie around the baby - not back up a lot of what they say?

The case worker needs more information!

I hope Nathan stays where it is best for him.

HUGS

[ramanth]

I think your parents need to get a lawyer and fight to get custody of Nathan. That is if they want to raise him. If not, but still want Nathan to be properly taken care of, they need to either speak to the case worker without Stephanie around or to the case workes supervisor. If they can get Charles to back up their claims, I'm sure it'd be a great help.

[sumbirdy]

I think your parents need to get a lawyer and fight to get custody of Nathan. That is if they want to raise him. If not, but still want Nathan to be properly taken care of, they need to either speak to the case worker without Stephanie around or to the case workes supervisor. If they can get Charles to back up their claims, I'm sure it'd be a great help.

They want to get custody and they want me to adopt him when I turn 18 because mom has seizures and doesn't feel that she would be fully able to take care of him for an extended period. Charles would back up their claims but Stephanie thinks she has to be everywhere he is and in every conversation that he is in and he won't say anything against her in front of her.

[cyber-sibes]

I think your parents need to get a lawyer and fight to get custody of Nathan. That is if they want to raise him. If not, but still want Nathan to be properly taken care of, they need to either speak to the case worker without Stephanie around or to the case workes supervisor. If they can get Charles to back up their claims, I'm sure it'd be a great help.

I'll second that! This baby should not be put in an apartment with two angry & irresponsible people, even if they are his parents. If your parents really want to keep him safe, I think they'll have to take legal action to protect him from a potentially deadly situation. You would be appalled at how many children die from neglect & parental violence every year.