Venting

[momoffuzzyfaces]

OUCH! Does this hurt and bring back memories!!!

I used to always have Thanksgiving at my dad and step mom's house.
One year he called and told me he didn't want me to come. I was crushed to say the least.

On Thanksgiving day, my step mom called asking where I was. I told her dad didn't want me there. That's when I first learned he was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. It still hurt though. Almost as much as when he and mom forgot my 10th birthday but remembered my brother's who's is 10 days later.

It just hurts and sucks when parents do things like that and even worse when they don't understand why it hurts us.

(((HUGS)))

[Cataholic]

Audrey,
I hope you know how very precious you are to me. I hurt that you hurt. I cannot understand parents that don't relish the time they have with their children, and especially a child your age. At a time where kids your age RUN from their parents, all you want is closeness. That hurts.

Honey, like Gini said, and she said it WAY better than I....you can't 'make' someone conform to your standards. And, your standards are appropriate. It is hers that are sadly lacking. To hear that your father took in her child from another relationship tells much.

You will do what you will do. But, I might suggest you take a deeper look at your brother's actions. To keep doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result is sheer madness. You say you can't...but, I know you can....you need to, at least for now, walk away from that, towards someone that can love you/appreciate you/treat you like you deserve.

Don't let this set the tone for one diasterous relationship after another. Get used to this idea: You, Audrey, deserve better.

Love,
Johanna

[slleipnir]

It hurts because I don't think she was always like that...maybe it was because I was young and didn't notice...but I think she use to be a lot nicer which is why I feel she has changed...

[dukedogsmom]

I've read this and just didn't know what to say. But I didn't want you to think I didn't care, either. I'm sorry your relationship is suffering. Do you think she would ever agree to go to counseling with you? I think you both could benefit from it and maybe it would clear the air. Seems like you both have a different definition of caring, maybe? Or maybe she doesn't want to realise how bad it's gotten and that's why she changes the conversation on you.