Quote Originally Posted by catnapper
I honestly do think it stems from not being spayed. Seriously, the tension between Pouncer and Abby started long before she actually started a heat cycle. She was spayed before her first heat (but I swear given a few more days and she would have gone into heat! ) She was giving off hormone that he was reacting to and even after she was spayed, the behavior stuck as a "game" for him.

What I did was just keep them apart as best as possible. If I saw him starting a sneak attack on her, I yelled out "Don't even THINK about it!" and he would either stop dead in his tracks or continue on his attack and I'd have to rescue a screaming Abby.

Then, after a year of this behavior, I noticed SHE would BAIT Pouncer. When he'd take the bait, she'd start screaming, I'd rescue her, and all was good again. You know what? Ever since I noticed that, I began to ignore her reactions to him. I didn't rescue her. I didn't tell him to leave her alone. And guess what? The behavior has dramatically decreased! She realized she wasn't going to get my sympathy any longer and she stopped baiting him.
This advice accuaully will help me and Mike with OUR crew