I need help, please, with (I think) aggressive behaviour. UPDATE.

[rg_girlca]

Since Isis is very submissive and just likes to lay around and sleep, then I would keep her in a separate room until you can get her fixed. Poor thing having to endure Soni's attacks must be so stressful for her and for you also.

Good luck and I pray that you are able to get an appointment for her soon.

((((((HUGS))))))

[Sevaede]

In some ways, wouldn't that be mean for both of them? I mean, they thoroughly enjoy each other when he is not being.. um, studly. They've spent their whole lives together, love each others (and most other cats) presence/attention/company, and are pretty much inseperable except for that one thing. I *WILL* do it, I just don't want either to think they are alone or abandoned or anything.

[catnapper]

I honestly do think it stems from not being spayed. Seriously, the tension between Pouncer and Abby started long before she actually started a heat cycle. She was spayed before her first heat (but I swear given a few more days and she would have gone into heat! ) She was giving off hormone that he was reacting to and even after she was spayed, the behavior stuck as a "game" for him.

What I did was just keep them apart as best as possible. If I saw him starting a sneak attack on her, I yelled out "Don't even THINK about it!" and he would either stop dead in his tracks or continue on his attack and I'd have to rescue a screaming Abby.

Then, after a year of this behavior, I noticed SHE would BAIT Pouncer. When he'd take the bait, she'd start screaming, I'd rescue her, and all was good again. You know what? Ever since I noticed that, I began to ignore her reactions to him. I didn't rescue her. I didn't tell him to leave her alone. And guess what? The behavior has dramatically decreased! She realized she wasn't going to get my sympathy any longer and she stopped baiting him.

[catfamily]

I honestly do think it stems from not being spayed. Seriously, the tension between Pouncer and Abby started long before she actually started a heat cycle. She was spayed before her first heat (but I swear given a few more days and she would have gone into heat! ) She was giving off hormone that he was reacting to and even after she was spayed, the behavior stuck as a "game" for him.

What I did was just keep them apart as best as possible. If I saw him starting a sneak attack on her, I yelled out "Don't even THINK about it!" and he would either stop dead in his tracks or continue on his attack and I'd have to rescue a screaming Abby.

Then, after a year of this behavior, I noticed SHE would BAIT Pouncer. When he'd take the bait, she'd start screaming, I'd rescue her, and all was good again. You know what? Ever since I noticed that, I began to ignore her reactions to him. I didn't rescue her. I didn't tell him to leave her alone. And guess what? The behavior has dramatically decreased! She realized she wasn't going to get my sympathy any longer and she stopped baiting him.

This advice accuaully will help me and Mike with OUR crew

[catnapper]

This advice accuaully will help me and Mike with OUR crew

LOL... I didn't say it was foolproof because they certainly still go at each other. She was screaming her head off last night "trapped" under the bed. Now I KNOW Pouncer can get under the bed with her but its more fun to run around the perimeter of the bed hissing and swatting at her!

but it DOES seem to be working. She's starting to trust Pouncer again. I doubt they'll ever go back to cuddling and grooming each other, but now she can be on the same surface as Pouncer without a look of fear in her eyes. Here she is last week... actually giving the basket headbumpies... the very basket Pouncer is sitting in!



edit: technically she's not on the same surface as Pouncer... he's on a pile of clothes. LOL I've often said in my "who's the brown tabby" threads that you could always tell Abby because she'll be on a completely different surface than Pouncer or separated by at least 2 other cats.

[KitCat]

When the boy cat attacks the girl confine him to another room. That's all you can do untill she's fixed.

[rg_girlca]

When the boy cat attacks the girl confine him to another room.

I was just going to say the same thing. Since it seems to make you uncomfortable putting Isis alone in the room. Maybe you can just do this when no one is home, so she doesn't have to endure his attacks alone and then let her back out while you are home to keep an eye on things.

When I was having problems with my boys, the one that was causing the problem at the time, got scolded and was put alone in a closed room for a few hours. They learned after a while to settle down. I still have a few incidents now and then, but not like I use too, especially since the "Peacekeeper" came into the house.