This must be very frustrating for you, Jen, because you must want to cuddle him so very badly. How clever of you to think of catnip hands - I'm sure that's an idea the rest of us will try when needed. You are his last and best home, right? I don't think you would be up to letting him go to another home after all he's been through. Anyway, good luck on the socialization and on keeping him medicated so that he feels a lot better soon.