Sarah's getting rid of Max :-(

[lute]

Try not to take people maybe disagreeing with the decision or giving you a little crap about it as not understanding. Just because someone disagrees with you or gives you a little crap doesn't necessarily mean that they don't empathize. But, on the other hand, some people have (or had) a lot of say and a lot of pull in their family's decision making processes. No matter how young they are (or were). It just wasn't that way in my house. I could debate and research and argue and talk til I was blue in the face, it was never my decision on anything that had to do with getting a pet or keeping one. I had no choice in how my pets were cared for or anything like that. My pets were taken care of, but, not like they are now that I make the decisions. anyway, people just get passionate about this kind of thing and forget sometimes to show a little compassion for the person (or people) involved in amongst the "tough love." I'm sure most of the comments are made because the people genuinely care! I just hope Max is taken care of, wherever he goes.

i wish more PTers looked at it like this!

[finn's mom]

i wish more PTers looked at it like this!

Well, people's upbringings, lives, and, situations are all so different, they are going to view certain decisions or situations a certain way. One thing I've learned (and, I've probably said this already in Pet Talk somewhere) is that you can't control what others say or do, but, you can control how you react to them. I was just trying to empathize somewhat. This is just one of those threads that can very easily turn ugly, and, I like to try to put some positivity out there. I mean, I think it's a crappy reason to rehome a pet, too, but, it's not Sarah's decision. I probably wouldn't bite my tongue if I could speak directly to her dad, though.

[lute]

Well, people's upbringings, lives, and, situations are all so different, they are going to view certain decisions or situations a certain way. One thing I've learned (and, I've probably said this already in Pet Talk somewhere) is that you can't control what others say or do, but, you can control how you react to them. I was just trying to empathize somewhat. This is just one of those threads that can very easily turn ugly, and, I like to try to put some positivity out there. I mean, I think it's a crappy reason to rehome a pet, too, but, it's not Sarah's decision. I probably wouldn't bite my tongue if I could speak directly to her dad, though.

maybe enough positivity will make all the negative go away!

[finn's mom]

maybe enough positivity will make all the negative go away!

It's a process called opposition thinking. It's worked for me. I don't know about making **all** the negativity go away, but, I've surrounded myself with people willing to at least try!

[zoomer]

I agree with Kari!!

[lizbud]

Maybe you have no say in household decisions about Max, but you could
refuse to go along with looking for another dog right now. It's not right to
go along with bringing another dog into the house on consignment, like a new
car or something. I wish Max the best of luck where ever he goes.

[Alysser]

Well, people's upbringings, lives, and, situations are all so different, they are going to view certain decisions or situations a certain way. One thing I've learned (and, I've probably said this already in Pet Talk somewhere) is that you can't control what others say or do, but, you can control how you react to them. I was just trying to empathize somewhat. This is just one of those threads that can very easily turn ugly, and, I like to try to put some positivity out there. I mean, I think it's a crappy reason to rehome a pet, too, but, it's not Sarah's decision. I probably wouldn't bite my tongue if I could speak directly to her dad, though.

Kari, you always know what to say. I agree with you *partly*. I know she is 13-15 years of and has limitations on decisions made in her parents house BUT I think Sarah should at least attempt to tell her parents about the many medications, shots, ect out there that can control dog shedding and allergies. Trust me, Sarah, I have been in your situation, many a time, about pets and strays and other things. Sadly, limitations had to overule that.

[finn's mom]

BUT I think Sarah should at least attempt to tell her parents about the many medications, shots, ect out there that can control dog shedding and allergies. .

I did say that, too. I think she should at least show her dad this thread, it can't hurt!

[zoomer]

I did say that, too. I think she should at least show her dad this thread, it can't hurt!

I think she's going to...

[Alysser]

I did say that, too. I think she should at least show her dad this thread, it can't hurt!

See that's what I mean, you ALWAYS know what to say.

[finn's mom]

See that's what I mean, you ALWAYS know what to say.

Not hardly! But, thank you! (read my signature about where happiness comes from, trust me...i've made many, many bad calls and will continue to do so, i'm sure!)

[zoomer]

Thanks, Kari, you make and made everything better