Can I get an annullment(sp?) from my family??

[jenluckenbach]

I would stop all contact with the brother

Oh boy, don't I wish.

But unfortunately, my brother lives with my dad. And other than that, my dad is alone. My mom died 10 years ago and his best friend/phone companion/etc, just passed away this past week. I can't desert my dad now.

[caseysmom]

Sounds like having your brother there may not be too healthy for your father. I am sorry you are going through this but you know anyone can accuse somebody of anything, doesn't mean it will be believed. I would just ignore it, and your father made an honest mistake, hopefully your brother won't do something to him, and if he would he needs to be gone.

[Rachel]

Sounds like having your brother there may not be too healthy for your father. I am sorry you are going through this but you know anyone can accuse somebody of anything, doesn't mean it will be believed. I would just ignore it, and your father made an honest mistake, hopefully your brother won't do something to him, and if he would he needs to be gone.

My reaction is similar. The bigger issue here is probably not the computer nor your brother's accusations, but whether your father is safe living with this hot headed, ill tempered, money-grubbing brother.

[jenluckenbach]

In my opinion, my dad is not safe, but my dad refuses to see it that way. My dad is the perfect example of the "abused" in a bad marriage. You can't report the brother to the authorities because my dad won't admit that he might do harm. (just like the battered wife who refuses to turn in her spouse)

My brother is verbally abusive, as of now, not physically abusive, but I worry it could one day come to that.

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The bad news is, my brother doesn't BELIEVE my dad's story (the truth) he feels dad is protecting me.

The good news is, dad knows who has the computer and that person said he would bring it back. Hopefully he will.


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In the meanwhile, I cannot express the hatred I have for my brother. He is evil and I can't even imagine how his sweet little baby will grow up learning from HIS example.

[caseysmom]

I know here in california there are departments where you can report elder abuse. I think they are use to situations where the abused protects the abuser.

[jazzcat]

Geez Jen, I'm so sorry. What a mess for you and your Dad.

I have wonderful brothers and sister but I have a sister in law that rides one heck of a broom!

[Catsnclay]

Wow, this make my family look like a bunch of Saints!

The only advise I can give you, is to ignore your brother, if he cannot believe his own father...........

Maybe one day his child will see all this as clearly as you do, and walk, no run far, far away from him!

As far as worring about your dad & brother, well, they live together, let THEM work it out......stay out of it!! I know it is hard, but once you learn how to not fall for their Drama Queen moments, they will get less & less. It worked for me!