Help friend dating dangerous man

**Cincy'sMom** · 05-27-2006, 09:26 PM

WOW!

**Vela** · 05-27-2006, 10:42 PM

Here, try this...

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**Corinna** · 05-27-2006, 11:55 PM

Why do you ask for advice then get nasty? I beleive Lizbud meant your freind needs to see a theripist to understand the abusive tatactics and beghavior. So she can see for herself that this guy is loony. If you get so defensive why ask?

**MsLadyLyn** · 05-28-2006, 02:04 AM

I don't think that lizbud ment any harm in suggesting therapy. I also agree with Corinna on the fact that if your friend does see a theripist it will help her to cope better and see the signs. It can also help her learn to tell these kind of "jerks" to get lost. There is nothing wrong with seeking therapy. Been there, done that!! IT DOES HELP, more than you can know.

**MsLadyLyn** · 05-28-2006, 02:05 AM

Originally Posted by Vela

Here, try this...

http://www.queendom.com/tests/minite...ama_queen.html

Went to that site and tried it. It was pretty cool.

**Scooby4** · 05-28-2006, 08:48 AM

Sorry so harsh. However, therapy isn't an option right now. It's a dangerous situation instead with the need for protection NOT talking about "feelings" and deep psycological issues. That's for later AFTER something happens.
Yes this guy needs to go to jail. However, until he does something flat out illegal and she reports it, I am helpless. I just need to somehow let my friend know she is "Safe" to report the issue to someone. She's not alone.
So stop with the "drama queen" about me. This isn't about me. It's about being a friend to someone who is need of help and support who got themselves into a situation unknowingly. You can help give advice to people on this website about "drinking" and "Depression" but ya get judgemental when requesting help with a domestic violence situation like it's a Jerry Springer issue.

That is where my "attitude" is coming from.

**Vela** · 05-28-2006, 10:53 AM

Oh please, you post "Jerry Springer" stuff all the time. Nobody can offer advice in this situation because first off you never listen to the advice you get, and second off because it's for local authorities to deal with and nobody can help with a situation like this. If local authorities can't do anything, why do you think anyone here can? Tell her to get out of the situation, the end. If that doesn't work get the local authiorities involved, that's all that anyone can say or do.

**Cataholic** · 05-28-2006, 12:55 PM

Sometimes I forget when I read one drama, if the OP was the same author of some other drama....sure enough, Vela was right! Your life is WAY to Jerry Springer'esque for me. Never in my wildest dreams could I come close to addressing your (and those closest to you) issues.