Jen i don't think Donna meant to sound unkind, she was just saying that she should look at other options or otherwise that is probably how she would be feeling, like you i don't speak for Donna either, but knowing her as I do I am sure she mean't it that way.

The best thing is Nancy has now looked at other options and is glad of the well meaning suggestions offered by some,and that means maybe Felicia will be around for a lot longer, now that is what i call a happy ending.

Nancy what an awful dilemma for you to be in, you are the only one who can make this decision, but we are all here to support you either way. HUGS.