Calling all moms (and grandmoms)....

[catnapper]

Would it really be such a bad thing if the boyfriend didn't stick around? Having no father isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially if "Dad" isn't a good person to begin with.

Be sure to go after boyfriend for child support though!

Exactly. My step-daughter's birth mom isn't in the picture at all - and she's better off for it.

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

[popcornbird]

Twins!!! Wow. I can understand why she passed out. Twins...two babies, when she wasn't expecting a child at all. Poor girl must be so traumatized. I hope she learns from this. Take care of yourself, and try to look at things in a positive way. You're going to have TWO NEW BABIES in the house. Two new babies to keep you happy and busy. He he he. I'll be praying everything turns out okay for you.

[king2005]

Once you get the child support guys after him, they'll stay on his tail & take a % of whatever he erns & give it to the mother & baby. So if he makes big money down the road, the % will brin gin more $$ to the mother & baby.

Here in Canada, the first child is worth aprox 300.00 & the 2ed is worth aprox 200.00 for a father who clears about 30k/yr after taxes. The % can go up & down, so it depends on the childs needs & why the father isn't in the picture.

Exactly. My step-daughter's birth mom isn't in the picture at all - and she's better off for it.

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

[My Peanuts]

TWINS! Wow. I'm sure she's scared to death, but in a year she'll wonder how she ever lived without them. Congrats!

[moosmom]

I wonder if it is possible to determine paternity now somehow

Yes, it's called DNA. It'll put to rest any doubt about who the father is. Make SURE you get him for child support.

Kim,

It'll be nice to spoil a grandkid, huh?? I noticed TWINS was mentioned. Is it one or two??

[Catty1]

She is a lovely girl! After she "kills" you for posting her pic here, have your ghost tell her how many people thought she was lovely, and how all are willing to help you and her!

Catty1

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Yes, it's called DNA. It'll put to rest any doubt about who the father is. Make SURE you get him for child support.

Kim,

It'll be nice to spoil a grandkid, huh?? I noticed TWINS was mentioned. Is it one or two??

It's one baby, thank goodness. (I was hoping for two, but one is nice too!)

I'm so excited for you, Kim. I can't wait!

[My Peanuts]

7 months! Wow! I'm so excited for you. Congrats again!

[NoahsMommy]

Um...WOW!!! I KNEW I'd missed a HECK OF A LOT! But didn't expect this.

Kim, you have always been amazingly wonderful and this example makes you SHINE.

Congrats to the family...and your step-daughter. You've all been through quite a shock and you're handling it like a trooper. You guys are great.

LOTS AND LOTS of people wouldn't have ben so lucky (her)... or loving... (you and dad). Did I say I thought you were great yet?

Its amazing she looks nowhere near 7 mos. But it happens. I work with a girl that is 6 mos. and she's FINALLY starting to look like there's a baby in there.

LOTS of luck and love to you all. Especially the soon to be mommy. I can only imagine the fear and apprehension she feels. But she must know you and hubby are there for her...and baby and I'm positive that eases her. God bless you, Kim.

Love, Kelly

[Maresche]

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

It's called garnishment and the government will do it. My SIL just got a check for $1800 from her ex who hasn't paid a dime otherwise in a year. Out of his federal income tax return. She may not get much regularly but she will get something especially with twins.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

I hope she comes to see what good people you are and how very lucky she is.

I wonder if it is possible to determine paternity now somehow.

[catnapper]

I might sound jaded but I have no faith in the government helping in making him collect. The kids' (my step kids') mother owes nearly $20,000 in arrears and all the government makes her pay towards it is $20 a month for all 3 kids. It took YEARS for us to FINALLY get the government to even get her to pay anything, and she only owes $70 a month per kid.... do the math and figure out many years she paid nothing before we could get the government to make sure she paid.

[Pam]

Kim I am floored almost as much as your stepdaugher! Yikes! Welcome to Grandmotherhood! (Is that a word?) Thank God you got her to a doctor early....at least I hope it's early. With twins they are often small (low birth weight) and teenage moms often deliver small babies. A teenage mom pregnant with twins is a double concern. (Pardon the pun) She will need to be advised about nutrition, etc. to insure a healthy baby and a healthy mom.

Looking down the road a bit, I imagine you will be helping out quite a bit now with two on the way. I can't even imagine the sleepless nights (getting two to stay asleep at the same time). I hope this doesn't impact you too much financially as you might need to stop working yourself in order to help with child care. I agree with the others, though, that once these little ones are here they will be worth every gray hair that will soon start popping out of your head. ((((Double hugs))))

[Corinna]

you may want to get $$ out of him but you may rethink this if he does he has rights to them . Make sure if he wants nothing to doi with them get his rights revocked so your daughter can make all choices for them with out him screwing with any thing.

[king2005]

you may want to get $$ out of him but you may rethink this if he does he has rights to them . Make sure if he wants nothing to doi with them get his rights revocked so your daughter can make all choices for them with out him screwing with any thing.

But if she got full custody over them, wouldn't be out of their lives & still have to pay??

For 8 months my dad was out of our lives (not my his choice of course) & he had to pay the child support. I hope the usa isn't any diferent.

[Cataholic]

Congrats! Congrats! Wow!!! Double blessings. That is pretty awesome, really.