Thanks Gini I need that I have to call my dad and talk to him seems he has an enlarged heart and extreme high blood pressure. Didn't tell mom until she forced him to . Hes been going to the doctor every other day for about 2 weeks ( this man hates doctors ) mom is wondering if she should come over now. He keeps telling her go. I hope if something happens will she have guilt.Things haven't been great for a long time they just have been married for so long it's habit.