My co-worker was found dead this morning.

[lvpets2002]

I am so so sorry & I as well send prayers to all the co-workers & to the family of the deceased..

[elizabethann]

OMG. How awful.

[lv4dogs]

OMG how tragic. The family, friends & co-workers are in my thoughts.

It is so sad when you can't even trust your own spouse now-a-days, even after being together for years & years. This is happening all to often the last few years.

[Flatcoatluver]

omg that so sad!!! My thoughts are with the family.

[cyber-sibes]

Oh, I'm so sorry, how horrible!

[poofy]

Dear Lord, how awful, your all in mypryers..

[krazyaboutkatz]

This is such tragic news. I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers and with your co-workers family.

[Ginger's Mom]

Hugs to you Angie it is so hard dealing with such a sudden and tragic loss of a co-worker. The family and friends will be in my prayers.

[Toby's my baby]

OMG I am so sorry. I hope things are ok, for you, your other co-workers, and family! {{HUGS & PRAYERS}}

[Alysser]

Who would do that???????? Im so sorry! I hope things look up for that family((HUGS)))

[pitc9]

News came in that he has a self inflected gun shot wound. So it looks like it for sure was a murder suicide.
I thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

[My Peanuts]

That is truly horrible. I feel so bad for the daughter and grandmother that found them. What could possibly drive someone to do something like that?

[Catty1]

If the husband recovers, that is the only way anyone might get an answer.

There are a lot of motives for suicide...one is kind of a power trip - the revenge motive.

A woman who used to be a customer where I worked a few years ago put herself, their 5 year old son, and the family dog in the car and gassed all of them, timed it so her hubbie would find them after work. He was apparently a cruel and controlling, abusive man - and she had suffered from depression.

The talk around town was that she didn't want to leave her son to live with that man. And, in revenge, took everything away from him.

It's hard to imagine that degree of despair - and that men reach it too - with thoughtless and cruel results.

My prayers and thoughts to the family, and to you.

hugs
Catty1

[luvofallhorses]

omg! how awful. prayers for the family.

[Lizzie]

Angie - I am sorry, it must be a tremendous shock and it probably seems unreal to you now. I hope the grandmother and daughter can find comfort in each other.

This very nearly happened to me. I was seconds away from dying when I woke up very suddenly (most unlike me). I turned my head very slowly, some instinct told me to do this, to see my husband standing beside the bed with his gun in his hand. I just looked at him, silently, calmly. He broke down and begged me to help him. Months later, after seeing a psychiatrist, he admitted that he'd planned the murder suicide for several months. Even now, over 20 years later, it all seems so unreal. I knew he was depressed and had been encouraging him to seek help to no avail. Often, the people closest to those who are in such trouble are the ones least able to help.

There are many, many reasons why this came so close to happening, though the central reasons were not hatred or revenge. When people reach this type of decision, their reasoning is so cut off from reality that stopping it from happening is nearly impossible. It's incredible how planned out it is and no-one realizes what is going on in their mind. I loathe it when they involve children also, but they are, apparently, trying to protect them.

I'm not a religious or philosophical or sentimental type of person. I don't believe in angels or miracles. But, I must admit that when I look back on that day (which is rare), I always wonder if my mother, who died when I was a toddler, somehow guided me in waking up when I did, and responding as I did.