How did you feel when you 'moved out'?

[Crazy-Cat-Lover]

I felt the same way! It was very hard leaving my family behind, harder than I anticipated. It took me quite a while to adjust to living without them, but I really enjoy being "the boss" now. I can do anything I want, have any pet I want, without needing any sort of approval, except for DH. There were times when I wished I didnt move out, times I wished I was at home with my family - but I have a family of my own now. I have a daughter and of course DH, that I can spend every day with. I think I would feel differently if I lived alone, I couldn't stand being lonely.

You are not weird for feeling that way, that is a HUGE step to take when you leave your family. I wish you all the best!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I felt the same way too! I was the last one getting married, so there were no more kids left! The worst part is that my mom is paralysed and in a wheelchair (MS), and I used to do most of the houes-work.... ! She cried very hard when we said goodbye on the parking lot of the place where our party took place . I still miss my birth-house, and I cannot ever go back, because my parents sold it a few years after my wedding.It had to many stairs in it, not handy for a disabled person...

[gemini9961]

It wasn't hard for me at all. I was still about an hour away from my parents but I was glad to be out. Now I live about 20 minutes away and see them more often. It wasn't a big deal for me really, I tend to be a pretty independant person and I was ready to be out.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

I didn't think it was scary... but I didn't have to worry about leaving town or anything. We moved about 10 minutes away from my mom's house.

Don't think about it as you are ending a chapter but beginning a new one. Think about how much fun it is going to be when you visit your mom and family on the holidays... and how much more exciting your chats will be when you are telling her about your experiences being married and taking care of yourself. You will miss her though... and probably make late night calls.... but those will be special to her.

She will be so proud of you...


Just try and look at all the positive things ahead and don't look at the negative.....

[Samantha Puppy]

It's weird. Not good, not bad, just different. And almost 2 years later, I still sometimes slip and refer to my parents' house as "home" (especially when I'm mad at Josh). I agree, don't look at is as closing a chapter but rather, just entering a new one.

[Cataholic]

I think for alot of us, it is different than it is for you. Many of us on here probably went more transitionally. I mean, I went to college first, and left for stretches of time- semesters. Then, in the summer, I returned home. So, it wasn't like, "I live here one day, I don't the next". So, by the time I left 'for good', I was 23, and it was 2600 miles away. It was shocking, for a bit, but, then, it was nice. But, again, for alot of us, we had been 'out and about' for sometime.

Then, I moved back home! At 29, for law school. And, when I moved back out, into my first home, it was nice. Now? I live ten minutes from my mom, and see her most everyday, talk alot to her, etc.

I see it as a step in the maturation process, I suppose.

[JenBKR]

It was bittersweet for me. I remember laying in bed the night before me wedding, thinking about how it was the last night there, and feeling so sad about that. But I was also so excited to start my new life with my husband. It was easier for me too because I only moved 15 minutes away. I loved living at my parents house, and we;ve always been very close. I even commuted to college because I just wasn't ready to leave.