Advice!?

[racing_gurl07]

Its so hard becuase i live with his rents and him, and its kinda stressful because his mom is like "d o this do this take this job now!" and im scared to tell her "no, i want to do this instead" but i always say, i dont care what other people think of me, I want myself to be happy. Its just so hard because Jason isnt there for me like I would like him to be

[JenBKR]

That would be a tough situation. You said you're getting your own place in March, right (you and your BF)? Can you afford the place without you working? Does Jason take his mother's side instead of yours? You might want to have a sit down with him and tell him how you feel (I know, that's not always easy with guys). It is important to be able to communicate if you see yourself having a future with him.

Start checking out the help wanted ads, and make sure that Jason's mom sees you. Make it known that you love the volunteering, and you can see something with animals being your future. If that is true, your volunteer work will look great on a resume. Also, when his mom tells you to take a certain job, you can politely decline, say something like, "That looks interesting, but I'm not sure it's right for me. I saw a few in the help wanted ads, that look pretty good, I'll check those out first."

[racing_gurl07]

i try and try to tlak to him, and when he doesnt answer i yell and he gets mad and then he wont answer me, its so hard for me to talk to him, hes the best boyfriend in the world we have been together for 2 1/2 years now and have EVERYTHING in common, but he just doesnt listen and hes the only onei have here, i have no friends here when i moved. I dont know what to say to him without it being mean or whatever

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[Jessika]

If you needed money, I'm sure there are many other places you could apply at to work and you would be much happier at. From the sounds of it, if you DON'T need the money, then I would stick to volunteering. Otherwise if you do need some money, I would stick with volunteering but try to find another part-time job instead of going back to one that you hate!

[racing_gurl07]

its hard for me to find a job, i dont know why. i apply EVERYWHERE and no one calls me back, and they are hiring. i dontknow whats wrong with me

[JenBKR]

Don't take it personally - TRUST ME I know how it feels to go crazy looking for a job. I thought after college that I'd get a high paying job right away, but I learned that it just doesn't work that way. It happens to most people. Then suddenly, after months of looking, you'll find something. It can be very stressful looking for a job. Don't worry, it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you.

I have learned that guys communicate differently than we do - it can be really hard to get your point across. Just keep trying to talk to him, and try not to get angry and yell, as hard as that may be. If he continues to not listen, you might have to really think about if he is right for you. I know that's scary, but trust me, communication is THE most important thing in a relationship. I haven't been married for long, and I've already learned that.

[Jessika]

its hard for me to find a job, i dont know why. i apply EVERYWHERE and no one calls me back, and they are hiring. i dontknow whats wrong with me

You can't just sit around and wait for them to call you back, though. After putting in an application somewhere, wait a week, then call them and ask to speak to the MOD and leave your name and tell them you're just calling to let them know you're still interested in the position. Then call back the next week. And the week after that.

They don't like people applying to 549837 places just to see which ones will call them back. They want people who show interest in the position other than coming by and dropping off an app.

[racing_gurl07]

I did call yesturday, and she said she did get my application, when should i cal back again, and what should i say