my predicament...re kitties...help ...

[finn's mom]

I think you did the right thing. And, honestly, don't worry about it until you talk to Dianne. You should find out what her thoughts are first, before you even start concerning yourself with keeping them. One thing at a time, baby steps, and, it will all work out for the best. I think you're a good person for what you've done, and, sometimes being the good person can be one of the most trying things to do. But, it's worth it.

[Laura's Babies]

I know EXACTLY where you are and what you are going through! I went through exaclty that same thing with Midnight/Samantha, except that she was a indoor kitty thrown out and used a litter box... Then her Mommie started talking about moving. I begged her for then Midnight and she refused but I knew Midnight would be cast out of the house again, in unfamlilar surroundings with NO ONE to feed her and look after her..... then I worried that she would try to find her way back here across heavily traveled bridges.. I was NEVER so glad when I got off the boat and found out they had moved back here months later but Midnight was still neglected and thrown out.... Pregnant and had kittens....

I had, had enough and Midnight was fixing to go "poof" in the night and the day before the planned event, she walked over and told me I could have her! Took me and Samantha 2 years to accomplish that but Samantha NEVER gave up on me nor I on HER! My rewards from Samantha have made every tear I shed worth it.

Sometimes though, you have to "Let Go and Let God", then again, maybe yours will have as happy a ending as mine and Samantha's.

Could these babies go "poof" one at a time maybe..... you find someone to give them a good home where you know they will be alright?

[Miss Meow]

Carole, can you talk to Dianne about your concerns?

You're taken on a lot of stress by doing such a good deed and it might help to share with her your questions about her plans and if she might move away in the future.

Four cats is only a tad more expensive then two to feed but you're right about the planning for vaccinations, vet bills etc. It certainly adds up then.

[carole]

I went over to see Dianne but she was asleep, she works nights, so i talked to her son briefly, just saying i had a problem that the kitties had moved in, he said yes mum thought that, i kept it light hearted and joking, saying i had not pinched them honestly,so will have to wait until i see her i guess, Kari is right one step at a time and I just have to not get all worked up about it all until i know for sure what is what.

I am not sure i want the responsiblity of four cats either, i always dreamed of owning at least one more ,but sense always kicked in and i knew it was best not to do that, but i was not prepared for this situation to arise, the girls are just so darn happy here, it breaks my heart to think of them back with Dianne, they get so little attention from her, and here they get cuddles and pats heaps of times a day, as I purposely go out to see them and when i hang the washing out, which is never ending in my household of course they get more attention, I really don't blame them for staying, they are not stupid.

Even if Dianne did let me have them, re-homing them elsewhere just would not be possible , i dont know anyone who would want two cats that are not house-trained or that come indoors at all, not a good option, if she does want to give them up, they will have to stay with me.

Right i will try not to worry myself sick with all this, as what will be will be won't it, nothing i do will change the outcome really in the long run.

[AbbyMom]

Carole

Your quandary reminded me of the Serenity Prayer that someone once gave me when I needed it so now I pass it to you:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.


You already had the courage to change things for the better for these cats even though they weren't yours. I suspect, that although it may be difficult, you'll know the right thing to do when the time comes. If you can't change things, you won't. If you can change things, you will. Trust yourself.

[carole]

Thank you, those are wise words indeed, yep i sure hope things work out for the best where Duchess and Vicky are concerned.