Believe me, this is not easy for me either. I hardly ever talk to his family and it's one of the reasons I moved away.

I've tried to get a hold of SIL but she won't return my calls. I'm afraid I must have angered her when I went off about what her mom did. What did she expect me to say? "Oh it's okay your step-dad just dumped a kitty in the desert."

I just want her to go and find the kitty. I've left her 2 messages and no response. I hate selfish people.