It was a bit of a sad afternoon, but managed to "sort things out mentally" like. Some wine and good food lightened our mood and we were able to enjoy each others company. Meagan said that there is a possibility that chemo can help Mr Jed. Apparently retreivers respond well to this particular treatment. She is not entirely certain if she will go down this road though as Jed's quality of life is most important to her. Her partner has a friend who is doing some research on the treatment for them at university so it's something that will be discussed a little later when more definate information is available. Meagan is going to find out exactly what cancer it is, and I suggested that she look at posting on Pet Talk, as some advice would no doubt be forthcoming. I also mentioned what a great community it is on here, so I'm hoping we get another member. Meanwhile Mr Jed is happy and not in pain at all, I also found out that he is closer to 15 than 12, so he's kind of at an old age where the ultimate question takes on more significance. I absolutely dread going through something like this with my kids.

Thankyou everyone for your good thoughts, it certainly helped.