I can't vote either Debbie. Sorry but non of those options seem any good to me. There has got to be a no-kill shelter somewhere that she could be taken to. If it meant going a few extra miles then so be it. After being a great family pet for 10 years I think that would be the very least she would deserve.

Has anybody thought of closing the bedroom door?

If my life depended on making a decision I would have to go with Kim's scenario. My other question is...if they can afford the vet to have her put to sleep then why can't they afford a vet check for urinary problems?

I think I'm having so much trouble with this because I just can't imagine any relationship where one partner has that much control over the other. Yes, we all compromise and bend to keep peace but not when a life is at stake. At least not in my world and I can't comprehend it any other way no matter how hard I try.

Sorry I wasn't any help.