This kind sounds like my hair problem

Diffuse Pattern Alopecia: is a type of hair loss most common in women. The hair tends to become thinner rather than making bald patches. One will not see a shiny patch without hair. It is more likely that every other hair is missing. This usually occurs across the top of the head and near the front (rarely on the sides.) This progressive hair loss can be both gradual or intermittent and you may notice hair becoming less manageable. 25% of Caucasian women who have reached their forties experience thinning and recession. The percentage increases as women head towards their fifties. 50% of fifty plus women have thinning hair. The degree of loss seldom reaches that of male pattern baldness.

http://www.hairfantastique.com/alopeciafemales.html

I'm still trying to find anything that sounds like my eyelashes though Even the doctor looked confused, it must not be all that common to lose your eyelashes with alopecia? She said that you could loe ALL the hair on your body though, so I would think