catnapper, convince her to go get help HERSELF. It does NOT matter whos beating who - its who calls the police first that gets "help". I knew a lady whos husband was abusive, attacked her with scissors one night, afterwards HE called police while she ran for the hospital. Once she got there a doctor and she called the police. When they showed up they arrested HER. Because during this fight she scratched the guy, since he called police first, they believed him, not her. It doesn't matter how nice a couple "seems". In every interview for the nightly news, the neighbors of the most recent murders always say the killer was "nice, polite, and quiet". If she cares at all for her kids and her life, she'll go to the police, while her husbands not around to beat her to them.