I dont really have any "good advice". Maybe take a class at Petsmart or something, to help her learn commands. Or take her outside and play so hard it wears her out and she is ready to come inside?
We had a dog at out vet, it was a resident dog, her name was Hannah and she NEVER wanted to come back inside. You could chase and chase and it NEVER worked.
Will she come for treats? I just dont have much advice. I am sorry she is getting you cranky, dogs
I hope all works out ok, and someone can give you better advice. *HUGS*