My father shocked me this past weekend when he wanted to have a serious discussion regarding my marriage.
MARRIAGE??? I just turned 21!
Marriage is probably the farthest thing from my mind at this point, that and retirement. He had two requests and wanted them to be known. In his mind it was serious discussion but I'm pretty sure I had a goofy and dazed expression on my face the entire time.
Anyway, he asks that regardless of where I live or where my future husband is from, that the wedding be held in Hawaii. He also asks that my future husband ask him for "my hand." Now at first, I didn't push the topic. To be honest I let it drop like a brick. But later, after I had gotten over my shock, I wanted to ask more about these requests of his. I had no qualms with the first one, whenever I picture my wedding (which isn't often) I see myself here. However, his second request didn't sit with me too well. After some arguing I got it amended to my future husband asking both my parents for permission. I also wanted to know the purpose of asking – were they going to have veto rights or something? He assured me that he just wants to hear my future husband say that he loves me and will take good care of me. How sweet.
After our discussion I realized that I didn't start thinking about marriage until finding out about my Dad's leukemia. Since then I have always hoped with every fiber of my being that *if* I get married, my Daddy will be there. No other detail of my wedding day could possibly be more important than that.
So I'm wondering - has anybody else had any requests from a parent/guardian about his/her marriage?
Please do not think that this thread is restricted to those in heterosexual relationships, anyone is free to share if they so desire.
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