I could really use some input from people from all different aspects on this subject. I have a Christian friend who had fallen totally in love with this guy. He issuper-sweet, charming, and what seemed to be totally smitten over her. About a year into the flirting/dating/hanging out he tells her that he is gay. This comes as a complete and total shock to my friend as he has never led on to anything like that. Needless to say she was truly heartbroken over this fact...and when he tells her his life story, it gets worse...
When he was a young child, his father was a major drug lord, his mother had already had 2 sons who were "holy terrors" and then he came along. From the get-go, she was not going to allow her baby boy to become entangled in everything going on around him. So, she would not let him watch any TV, he was to have no contact with ANYTHING violent (no actions figures, cars, etc). He was only allowed to spend time with her, and only allowed to play with baby dolls and Barbie. His older cousins would always dress him up like a little girl and put make-up on him. Also, when he was about 5, one of his cousins (the cousin was about 7 or 8) sexually molested him. It was an constant thing that happened to him (his cousin was over a few times a week). He didn't know there was anything wrong with it at the time. The mother even caught them a few times but did nothing about it
Fast-forward to now...This guy believes that he is gay because of how he was raised/his surroundings. Since the only sexual pleasure he has experienced was from a male, that is what he is now comfortable with. However, when he met my friend, something began to change. He then started talking about how he wanted to be straight and wanted to be with her. He keeps saying that he should sexually experiment with other women in hopes to "teach" himself that he can get arroused by females. Being a Christian, my friend is in no way willing to allow herself to be used to try and "teach" him.
The point of this is....Do you feel it is possible for Hayden to change his sexual preference? How do you think he should go about doing this? There is so much more to the story, but I think there is now enough to go on. What is you opinion of this situation? Should my friend just "give up" on him becoming straight and look for a new guy to date? (She never wants to loose his friendship...she just wants to know if she should continue to persue him as a possibility for dating)
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