A poll for the women...

[slick]

Hugs and look in the mirror once in a while and smile and say I am a good person and I love myself today and everyday.

Carole, I know this comment was not directed at me but I've been told the same thing by other people.

This is extremely hard to do when you have spent your whole life telling yourself otherwise. All we can do is try to change our attitudes and that does not happen overnight. Trust me on this one.....I'm staring 53 in the face and still working on it.

[dukedogsmom]

It's also hard when situations and men have told you otherwise your WHOLE LIFE. I don't even like looking in the mirror and do it as little as possible.

[slick]

Originally posted by dukedogsmom
It's also hard when situations and men have told you otherwise your WHOLE LIFE. I don't even like looking in the mirror and do it as little as possible.

I hear ya!

[caseysmom]

I don't think I am beautiful when I look in the mirror but when I look in Casey's eyes I feel beautiful!

[$dog$]

if i was pretty i would be so happy

[sandragonfly]

if we, women are beautiful, how come we are in the dog house...?

hey guys, if you say you're ugly, then I am too. creatures too, plants too and so on... because we all were born with our faces innocently..growing in the same way with one heart...you can't help it. especially feeling the beauty of your life you're living -- don't you?!

screw the wicked mirrors, >> I << SAY you all ARE beautiful..period. please, in and out. take it or leave it hugs to all of you ~

wolfchan, in your words.. do you feel you are?

[Tiah]

You know, I never realized it until now, how great of an influence society have on children in how they view themselves.

My sister is becoming a nurse, and recently had one of her clinicals in the pediatric center. Her case? A twelve year old anorexic. A female nurse has to watch her take a shower, because she tries to fit in whatever exercises she could in the shower. Jumping jacks, crunches, you name it. They also had to have someone watch her 24 hours to make sure she ate her food, and did not throw it up.

It's terrible

[carole]

Slick and Val, I too suffer from low self esteem, so I know what you are saying and where you are coming from, I was only trying to cheer Jesse up, she seems to feel so bad about herself, it is worrying to hear someone say that about themselves, I was always told it is better to think positive than negative, so I guess my comments re-the mirror were just trying to re-inforce that.

I have trouble practicing what I preach, believe me.

[persianmom]

I really don't know how to answer that question. In my life I've had one guy tell me I was a beautiful woman and don't ever let anyone tell you different and that happened in just the last year. I was married to a man for 26 years, who told me often that I was not pretty and no other man would every want me. So I stuggle with that. At times I think I'm cute but beautiful no.

[TopCat3]

Persianmom, that was how he kept you wedded to him, made you feel insecure/unattractive so you'd never consider anyone else would be interested in you. It was to cover his own insecurity. What a creep. The one you are with sounds so much better and I'm pleased for you Good luck!!

[mruffruff]

My dad always made me feel worthless and not pretty. My ex's weren't much better.

Now I'm much older and don't listen to others very much. I think I'm OK to look at, but not beautiful. Inside I am.

Guess my priorities are a little different now.

Mary

[robinh]

I've never thought of myself as beautiful, but it's just been in the last 5-10 years that I've decided I like my face. It's not perfect, but I've lived a hard life to get it and it's a great face. I've also learned (throught a lot of trial and error) that if I don't like me, how can I expect anyone else to.

MY SO is funny - he never says I'm beautiful but he makes me feel that way by his actions. Kind of hard to explain, but he's helped me learn to like myself and feel good about myself by accepting me as I am - with no need to change.

And if it hasn't been said enough, I refuse to accept that people who care so much for others (fur and skin) cannot possibly be anything but beatiful!!

[cubby31682]

I voted no! I don't think I am. I think I have good things about myself. I like my smile and my eyes, but that isn't enough to me, for me to think I am beautiful. I am a very caring person, but again that doesn't make me beautiful. I would love to lose 60 pounds but I don't think that would help. I would look better yes, but would that make me become beautiful? I don't think it will. My pets love me for whole I am, which makes me wonder what they see that I don't.. I like being me some days (that is one thing that I think makes people beautiful, liking who they are) other days I get so tired of the pain from my past that I hate myself.

Every day I look in the mirror and I tell myself that I am beautiful. I have been doing this for the last few months or so. It has helped a little. I can now pick out the good things in myself. I can also pick out the bad things as well. Will that ever change? I have no idea, but I hope some day it will. I want to think I am beautiful, I want to think that I am a great person, I want to think that I am a fun person to be around. But today I don't think any of those things will ever come true. I could be wrong though. I hope I am wrong. We will see I guess.

Katie

[RICHARD]

Barbie and Walt Disney are the most evil people/things on the planet.

Beauty is a fleeting thing.

I laugh when i see Joan Rivers on TV......the skin is ok looking but what's up with the facial features.

I see a lot of people during the day and when I see an ugly guy with a good looking gal i wonder for a minute then I have the answer....



Love.....


Face it folks,

beauty aint' poop unless you are loved..

[Vio&Juni]

Some guy that hasn't seen me in about 2-3 years summed it up:

"The pretty short blonde, not beautiful, with a nice little body", which I think is a close description of how I feel about myself (only my body is not that little as he remembers )

Really, I have never considered myself beautiful, but I was always comfortable with how I looked (except when I was underweight - 92 pounds).

For me, it's much more important if a person is attractive than beautiful.