Aren't we your friends too?

[micki76]

Originally posted by pitc9
Even if people say "You should post more pix"
I do.. then only 3 or 4 people reply and they are always the same people (thank you!!!)

And I know if one of the other members in the click posts at the same time... mine will never be read.

Yes, I know what you mean. I rarely post about my dogs anymore for this reason. Now I just occasionally reply to other people's threads.

[kimlovescats]

Originally posted by neko1
I agree...I'm 27 and I feel like the 'outsider'. While I feel more comfortable on the cat side as opposed to general, I still have no good friends, no one to PM, no one to chat with on aim, no one to meet with..etc. Guess that's why I pretty much gave up on posting a lot anymore..just basically a lurker now.... Although when I do post something, I seem to get more of a response in Cat General.

Sorry for the depressed loser rant...bad habit of mine

OH NO!!!! Please don't feel this way ... I just assumed you had a busy life lately! I for one love you and your babies, and want to see and hear much more about them!!!! Please come back and realize you are loved and missed here!!!!

(((HUGS)))
Kim

[Karen]

Dearie me - to all those who are hurt because their posts don't get a lot of reples, remeber please to look at the number of VIEWS! That's more important! Often people cannot think of anything unique to say, or do not have enough time to properly frame and type out a response, but enjoy reading and seeing the pictures in posts!

Guess what? I don't even have AIM, but still count you all as friends regardless! Grandma always told me the only way to have a friend is to be a friend. Feel free to post in any forum at any time. I do not "stick to" any particular forum, but start each session on Pet Talk by viewing "Today's Active Topics" which doesn't discriminate by forum!

Neko, we miss you when you're not posting! You're not an "outsider," some people just talk more than others in ANY setting!

[Barbara]

Originally posted by neko1
I agree...I'm 27 and I feel like the 'outsider'. While I feel more comfortable on the cat side as opposed to general, I still have no good friends, no one to PM, no one to chat with on aim, no one to meet with..etc. Guess that's why I pretty much gave up on posting a lot anymore..just basically a lurker now.... Although when I do post something, I seem to get more of a response in Cat General.

Sorry for the depressed loser rant...bad habit of mine

Neko, you are one of the purrsons who joined at about the same time I did and I always considered you as a good friend

I miss your furkids and I think many people do so (of course I miss Tama especially but all the others as well )

Just come more often and talk and laugh- I don't think you are a loser and I am sure there are many others who don't

[RedHedd]

Originally posted by Karen
Dearie me - to all those who are hurt because their posts don't get a lot of reples, remeber please to look at the number of VIEWS! That's more important! Often people cannot think of anything unique to say, or do not have enough time to properly frame and type out a response, but enjoy reading and seeing the pictures in posts!

Thank you Karen. For me it's just a matter of a lack of time. I don't have time to check each and every forum on PT as I have a life offline. I'm sorry those of you who feel resenful that your posts don't get more responses. It's not personal and please don't take it as such! As Karen pointed out, the posts DO get looked at. After going through breast cancer a number of years ago I realized that life is way too short to worry about things like this.

Now I'm going to go work out and get on with this beautiful sunny day.

[DogLover9501]

Originally posted by popcornbird
In general, I do have friends who are my age, or close to my age, and I do enjoy them too, but there is something about people older than me that I love. I think its because the friendship that forms with someone older than you is usually based on respect and understanding, while it is different with those the same age as you.

I totally agree with this(although I do like the PTers around my age )

I also felt a bit bad about catnappers post about seperating us from adults, I would NEVER go in general if there were only teens, as I could easily go to some chat room full of teens which is not my thing, and I am not like alot of people my age, and most of the teens here aren't either.

I just hate being thought of as a "kid" here on PT as some people would say...

[trayi52]

Wow, and I really do love and respect the young people here at PT! You know that you are all so dear to me, all of you! I would really hate to see it divided also, because, well I may not always respond, but I am reading and looking at all the great pictures these young people post!

I love you guys, all! There is not a young person here that I don't love and respect to the fullest! Please believe that!

Willie

[QueenScoopalot]

Whew...I finally got to the end of this thread! Good points made all around. I also spend a lot of time posting in Cat General as cats are my passion, and I spend countless hours on the streets rescuing abandoned cats and kittens.(At my time and expense). I also don't hesitate to rescue other animals in need such as sea gulls, dogs, escaped pet birds etc. I also check the New Posts or Todays Active Threads and will read what catches my eye. I enjoy going to see Who's Online and check out what others are reading. I've made the silly mistake of not noting the date a thread was started and end up responding to threads from several years back. Now I check the post date. I usually check out many different forums, but don't often have the time to do more than a quick skimming of topics. If I find a human interest story involving pets, or other topics, I'll often post them in the catagory most suitable to the story line. I was rather taken aback (aka insulted) when I was PMd by another poster asking "why I'm always posting news stories, people read newspapers". I for one don't, and many of the posted stories are from other countries! If people don't want to read or respond to them that's fine with me. If this person had stopped and done a search of the over thousand posts I've posted, 95% are about my rescues, my special needs cats etc. I have posted about my dogs as well, and don't feel insulted by the number of responses, as Karen said, look at the number of views. I accept that many of us are too busy in our lives to respond to each and every post. I know I am! Jan P.S I found this thread by seeing Who's Online, not from the Cat General link.

[wolflady]

Originally posted by bluekat
PCB and others who agree with her, I know what you mean by feeling excluded from the cat people. But I'm not saying that its completely wrong for some general related threads to be in Cat General only. I know some people only post in the cat side, and I see nothing wrong with that. If I only posted on the cat side, I would probably post threads that belong in general in cat general too. Because if you only post on the cat side, then you wouldn't feel as comfortable with the rest of PT that don't post there. And those people might not want to come over to general also, if they're only here because they love cats and only want a cat-related forum.
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But I do have to agree that the cat side seems more friendly and close...I have never seen a thread there where people were fighting but I have seen a couple in the dog side.

I completely agree. Some people simply don't have the time to post on all forums and they choose to come to the forum of their choice(be it dog, pet or cat). I know that (for the longest time) since I only had cats, I felt like I only belonged on the "cat side", so to speak. I couldn't relate to any of the dog, other pet threads, so I simply didn't go there.

I've noticed that some people are always only on the "dog side" too, so personally this topic goes both ways. If I can't relate to something, why spend the time when my time is limited?
I'll be honest in saying that I primarily spend all of my time on the "cat side" because that is where I've been since 2001 and that is where I feel comfortable. I do pop occasionally onto the dog side and pet general and general, but not quite as often. Doesn't mean I don't like those animals any less. I love every one, but I just don't have the time to post in every part of the forum. Now that I have a dog, I've looked a little more on the dog side, but since nobody knows me, I don't feel as welcome.

I have been away for quite some time from PT, and I think it was primarily because there were so many threads about non-pet related topics all over the place...and it simply didn't interest me. I have come to Pet Talk to talk about pets, not to always gossip about totoally unrelated things. I do participate in some of the non-pet related topics, but not as much as I do the pet-related topics.
I guess it turned me off for awhile, so when I came back, I just stayed in the cat-related topics because that IS what interests me, ya know? I don't think any member of this forum is intentionally being rude by only being in one part of the forum, I just think they tend to stay where the topics interest them and where they feel comfortable, and I don't see a problem with that. I guess it's because I'm one of those people??!!

[leslie flenner]

I just post where I am interested but that doesn't mean I don't look and wish I had the energy to post elsewhere!- I do look at lots of other stuff but i have to keep going or I'd be on pet talk for hours! Right now I am focused on helping my mom's friend's friend find a home for her elderly dog and blind cat- so I will whip through everthing else and post only limited amounts- this one seemed definately worth it! I like doghouse and general and I seek out a lot but even when I'm not busy- I can't reply to everything I look at and am enjoying!! They are all great!

[Katiesmom]

I agree...I'm 27 and I feel like the 'outsider'. While I feel more comfortable on the cat side as opposed to general, I still have no good friends, no one to PM, no one to chat with on aim, no one to meet with..etc. Guess that's why I pretty much gave up on posting a lot anymore..just basically a lurker now.... Although when I do post something, I seem to get more of a response in Cat General.

I feel the same way...so all I do is lurk around and just try to reply...I see no use in posting things that go on in my life if no one cares heck they don't even get alot of views....I have been here since January and haven't made one friend....but people say post more, reply more that doesn't matter I posted all the time when I first started and that didn't make a difference.....I'm done whining now so I'm going back to lurking now

[trayi52]

Crystal, I think you are just the sweetest! I would love to see pictures of Katie. I see her in you siggy, so won't you please post some pictures of Katie?

Willie

[DJFyrewolf36]

I usually end up lurking on any forum I'm on...mostly because my big *virtual* mouth gets me into trouble . I got flamed when I first joined and became a hardcore lurker for fear of offending people. I don't like offending people *I don't like conflict in general* and I'm always afraid of doing that because I see things differently than others. I don't get a lot of negativity on the cat side *probibly because all I post are pix of Remus lol*. I try to post on topics that interest me but I try to keep things nutral. I look at every general forum and the Dog House every day because I enjoy reading all the great stories on here *and the Dog House gets mighty entertaining at times* I find myself lurking over in Cat more just because I have a kitty and I can relate more *also I get helpful advice, being a first time kitty owner I can sure use it sometimes!*

I don't know, I'll probibly end up staying around PT for a long time and posting on occasion. I've been here a while now and really only PM one person. I think that Pen Pal thing is a great idea for developing friendships and generally getting to know people. The getting to know is the hardest part I think, and I think thats why people tend to form cliques and stay on cirtain sides *cat, dog etc.*

[trayi52]

DJ, I remember that, but you know I was never offended! It takes a lot to offend me, maybe because I'm old and too busy offending myself! LOL, but anyway, I have not even seen anything to get you in trouble over!

DJ, you are a fine addition to Pet Talk, and I really appreciate you!

Willie

[leslie flenner]

QSL got flamed when she first joined in (I think) January too. I had already joined and upset bunyfoofoo (or fufu) and I had been urging QSL to join. She finally did. Then, right away, I stumbled across a thread that upset me and talked Jan into responding as she is the trapper/rescuer in our area but she got hell from everyone on the cat side. I apologized to her repeatedly and eventually it all quieted down, OBVIOUSLY! SO, to those of you who feel ignored, you're not. Jan had to keep at it to win everyones good graces and btw- I don't think I'm exactly "friends" with people here but that is not why I am here- I am here to learn, share, enjoy, exchange, giggle, give giggles if I can, and to prod jan into putting up horrible pictures with ending success stories! I also get caught up in silly arguments that I best stay out of (bunyfufu...bad start)
Well, point is, I don't think anyone need feel unwelcome but since some do, I'm glad it's been voice and maybe it will be recognized in future posts!