I need all the hugs you can spare.

[manda_moo87]

Sending LOTS of hugs!

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[mina'smomma]

Jen,

I'm sooo sorry you're going through all this horrible times. Your so-called friend doesn't sound like one at all. I send you HUGE HUGS, KISSES AND SCRITCHIES, from my family to yours.


Mina says to tell you that she sent the scritchies and to include head bumps for you. She wants to cheer you up. You're doing the right thing though by seeking help for depression and not just trying to deal with it. My psychiatrist prescribed Mina for me, and she has been a wonderful addition to our family. (tomarrow we find out if there is going to be another one of the human species.)

CHIN UP LUV AND WE ALL WILL KEEP YOU IN OUR PRAYERS AND GIVE YOU ALL THE HUGS YOU NEED. WE ARE YOUR FRIENDS HERE.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by slick
Did this so-called friend say this to you? Talk about a stab in the heart!!! How on earth could this be true?? My response to this? Consider the source.

I know it's hard right now, but this "consider the source" is so true. Some people make themselves feel better by putting other people down, and usually the part of other people they pick on is the part of themselves that they don't like. Obviously I don't know you that well, but lieing and being irrational are two of the very last traits in the world that I would associate with Jen Luckenbach!

And this part might be hard too if you're going through depression and self loathing, but there comes a time when you have to say to yourself that no matter what somebody says to you, or names they might call you, that YOU KNOW BETTER! YOU know who you are and the kind of person you are and you KNOW what they are saying is not true, so you need to stand up for yourself and say to yourself "I don't care what they say because I AM A GOOD PERSON! People all over the world love me and care about me and I do good things in this world, so who cares what "she" thinks. SHE has it wrong and I don't need people like her in my life, bringing me down."

Sorry, but I just couldn't believe somebody would say this about you Jen. Especially someone who supposedly is/was a good friend.

[Lilith Cherry]

I agree with Debbie! We KNOW you are a good person and you have to keep telling yourself this over and over .. Shut her and her negativity out of mind as much as you can and concentrate on feeling good about yourself.. Lots more love and hugs,

Lilith

[DJFyrewolf36]

Sorry I just got to this thread *Weekends are such a pain sometimes lol*

You seem like a wonderful, caring person! Even though I haven't had the pleasure of actualy meeting you I can tell from your posts and the great number of responses here. You are a person I would really like to meet some day.

As for your "friend" real friends don't do that to you. My ex pulled that kind of garbage on me and it messed me up. I went through counsiling and therapy too. Don't worry, things DO get better. God is there for you and all of us on PT are there too.

Remember, You are YOU and you are OK!

*HUGS* and *Headbumpies* from me and the gang

[sasvermont]

Jen, you are such a wonderful and kind person. Some times things do not work out they way we had planned .... and it is upsetting at best!

I am glad you are going to try to work it out with Dr.s etc. I highly recommend medications.....they have saved many a soul, including me! Depression is often a chemical thing....exercise is also very, very good for offsetting depression.......

Please keep us posted.

You have so many friends here......and you will always meet more here too!

You are loved by so many people here....and you CATS love you too.......that is for sure.....and your husband.... ooopppss, almost forgot him.....

So, chin up honey. Go for a nice long walk.......some place pretty....and think about how fortunate you are in so many ways........

Sas

[jenluckenbach]

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[K & L]

Hope you're feeling better Jen!!

[carole]

How are you doing today Jen? Thinking of you and wishing you a brighter day today. Take care and giant HUGS.

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[wolflady]

Gosh, sorry I'm late to this thread! First, I have to offer up some **HUGS**HUGS**HUGS**HUGS**
I'm not sure what happened with your "friend", but it's so unfortunate that it did. I experienced the same thing with my "best friend" in college and it really does leave an empty space in your heart where that person used to be. Obviously this person didn't regard friendship like you do, and that's their loss. You are too nice of a person, too caring of a person to deserve something like this. I agree with what everyone else here has said.
I know that when I went through the loss of my would-be friend, people told me that sometimes you hurt the ones you love the most.
I thought this was true, but in her case, she just didn't hold friendship in high esteem like I do. I know that when I make a connection...a friendship...it's unconditional. I'll be your friend forever...mistakes or not, during happy times, sad times...I like to consider myself a good friend to those people. I usually like to think that others think the same way of friendship that I do, but apparently they don't. One small, stupid miscommunication made my so-called friend dump our friendship just like that. Nice, huh?
Even years after, I feel a bit bitter towards this person because we had such good times in college. She was my best friend, and when she dumped our friendship so easily, I was stunned. I had no idea what to do and I couldn't even fathom why it was so easy for her to just drop it. Especially over something do dumb! I felt so empty, because I spent so much time with her, that I had no idea what to do with my time! I saw her in band and was hurt that she just completely ignored me and picked out a new friend.
I'm angry at what this person has done to you, because they clearly don't deserve your friendship, Jen. I know that's easy for me to say, but it's true. They have no idea what they have lost....and personally...you're better off without them. I'm glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better and that you've severed the ties, so to speak.
Please know that you have all of us here at PT! We love you Jen!
**hugs**
Karen

[PayItForward]

It would be interesting to hear the other person's side of the story though before comdeming their actions maybe Lisa is suffering from some problems at the moment.

Jen told me about her problems with her PA friend on my forum too.

[carole]

Even though there are always two sides to every story,and maybe this other person is having problems, but to take the stance they have with Jen seems a little harsh doesn"t it?

All I know is we have a very valuable kind and caring member from PT who needs our love and support right now, and for me that is all that is important, she has my support 100 per cent.

[slick]

Originally posted by carole
All I know is we have a very valuable kind and caring member from PT who needs our love and support right now, and for me that is all that is important, she has my support 100 per cent.

Well said Carole. Jen, you know that I stand behind you too, but more importantly I would love to stand in front of you and give you the biggest hug ever. Every day will get a bit easier although it probably doesn't seem like that right now. I sure hope you can check in later and let us know how you are doing.

luv
slick
xo

[jenluckenbach]

Jenny is right, there are always 2 sides to every story. But I do not really know the other side, all I know is the pain. Hopefully I did not do something so terrible and so unknowingly, to hurt another person as badly as I myself am hurting right now.

But your support is wonderful and has helped me tremendously.

Thank you {{{{HUGS}}}}