Teens with different looks

[primabella]

Then do you live near, or in Quebec?

Yeah in Quebec. Some pretty rude people over here...

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by Twisterdog
Well, then I must be the meanest ole' mom in the whole world, because my son is not getting any piercings until he is 18, not 15.

That's really harsh.

MY PARENTS told me that I could smoke, drink, pierce, tattoo.....ANYTHING I WANTED TO DO!!!!!


i just had to find another place to live........

[2kitties]

I have no idea what kind of parent I will be. I don't think any of us can predict how hard it is to be a parent, until we become one. I am 28 years old now and can at least look at my adolescence from a different perspective. While I understand times are changing, there are some values I hope I will hold.

I hope I am accepting of my children and their individuality. I hope I am able to help them become the best they can be. I hope I can keep them safe and help them understand how important it is to stay a good course in life.

Like my own parents, my biggest priority will be grades. If my teen is making good grades and studying and following a good path, then I'll probably be more likely to overlook some haircolors. Once my child is driving or my daughter is dating, I will make sure there is a phone always available on his or her person. I will always know who my children are with and what they are doing. But, if my child earns my trust, then I will give it. I will expect my child to take an interest in things- both in and outside of school. They may not be an athlete or anything like that, but I expect them to have interests. Art, music, sports... something besides hanging out at the movie theater.

But, let the grades fall or start messing up. I will shirk those freedoms in a NY minute.

[Logan]

Originally posted by 2kitties
I have no idea what kind of parent I will be. I don't think any of us can predict how hard it is to be a parent, until we become one. I am 28 years old now and can at least look at my adolescence from a different perspective. While I understand times are changing, there are some values I hope I will hold.

I hope I am accepting of my children and their individuality. I hope I am able to help them become the best they can be. I hope I can keep them safe and help them understand how important it is to stay a good course in life.

Like my own parents, my biggest priority will be grades. If my teen is making good grades and studying and following a good path, then I'll probably be more likely to overlook some haircolors. Once my child is driving or my daughter is dating, I will make sure there is a phone always available on his or her person. I will always know who my children are with and what they are doing. But, if my child earns my trust, then I will give it. I will expect my child to take an interest in things- both in and outside of school. They may not be an athlete or anything like that, but I expect them to have interests. Art, music, sports... something besides hanging out at the movie theater.

But, let the grades fall or start messing up. I will shirk those freedoms in a NY minute.

When the time comes, I think you will make a great parent!!!

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by 2kitties

I hope I am accepting of my children and their individuality. I hope I am able to help them become the best they can be. I hope I can keep them safe and help them understand how important it is to stay a good course in life.

Parents who respect their kids individuality will neve have to worry about the goth/surfer/gangbanger costumes that the kids wear today.


Being an individual means you DO NOT have to look
like someone else.

[Soledad]

Being an individual means you DO NOT have to look like someone else

AMEN!!!

How cliche is it to decide the world does not "understand" you and to then chose a uniform that best displays that to the rest of the world??!! Try being different in your actions and thoughts rather than relying on a decade's old formula of "unique" clothing.

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by Soledad


How cliche is it to decide the world does not "understand" you and to then chose a uniform that best displays that to the rest of the world??!! Try being different in your actions and thoughts rather than relying on a decade's old formula of "unique" clothing.

This may not be a PC thing to say but... dressing goth/surfer/skater or gangbanger is just a way of saying, "I look different than YOU, but I dress this way so other goth/skater/surfer/gangbangers
know that we are all on the same side!!"

We are all M&Ms.....

Different colored candy shells, chocolate inside!

[Kfamr]

I hate labels.

[slick]

I've already indicated that I grew up in a very strict setting and was not allowed to do any of the stuff kids can do these days. Besides, it was a different era and in my day it wasn't so much the piercings or hair colour, it was the hippies and they followed their own path.

When I turned 40, I decided to get my ears pierced. When I told my Mom and Dad about it and the first words out of my Dad's mouth were "What do you want to do that for?? Sticking holes in your ears won't make you any different." I just sighed and walked away. Did it anyway and it took 2 nieces to hold me down. (Pain and I don't get along very well.)

The point of this story is that I couldn't understand Dad's statement because looking different wasn't what I was after and everyone wears earrings. And even at the age of 40 he was still trying to tell me what to wear. **sigh** the older generation!! Guess I'll be there someday.

Richard, M & M's?? I was given a pack of them one day and was asked to put them in alphabetical order. Took me all day.

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by Kfamr
I hate labels.

What do you do when you eat canned food?


Years ago I saw a documentary on a person who could not read....when asked about how she
would shop for food the gal said she looked at
the pictures or WHEN she COULD NOT READ THE LABELS she would shake the cans to determine what was inside....

The last time i shook someone to find out what was
inside them they weren't too happy....It's too much hassle to peel away 'the look' a person wears to find out what is really inside them....

Labels are just a way to tell how much a person
paid for their clothes.

[Kfamr]

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[catland]

When I go to the dentist, I don't expect goth with my floss.

When I watch a football/basketball/baseball game, its a lot easier to tell the teams apart because of their uniforms.

The orange smocks at Home Depot let me know who to ask when I have a question.

I don't want a person to exit a police car and approach me if they are in gangbanger attire.


It has nothing to do with liking or disliking labels - like Richard mentioned, it makes grocery shopping much easier.

Slick - my dad hated the idea of pierced ears. I waited until I was 18 before getting mine pierced to avoid the conflict that my older sister went through. My mom got her ears pierced when she turned 70 .

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by catland
When I go to the dentist, I don't expect goth with my floss.


I don't want a person to exit a police car and approach me if they are in gangbanger attire.

How does a 'goth' tell their fingernails are dirty?


In my "hood" gangbangers getting out of police cars won't hurt you-when they exit squad cars they are cuffed.....

[Toby's Mommy]

My cousin (I just found that out) has a different hair color like every day. She is really nice and everything and has a nose ring but some people are really mean to her. The one thing I didn't like was on the bus she said,"This bus ride is so long I could have smoked a 12 pack by now."
No offense to anyone but shes only in 10th grade!!

[Soledad]

Um, do cigarettes come in twelve packs now? Or was she trying to say she could have drank a twelve pack of beer?