I'm so upset. Tell me I did the right thing.

[ramanth]

The fact of the matter is she contradicted herself in just this one post....

Originally posted by FloppsyLadySally89
I didn't say I was joking. I get scared if my mom comes at me. I would never actually do it, but I needed to get my mom off my back. If I did one little thing wrong, she'd hit me. Dad, same. So did I ever KID around about that? I'm not saying she abuses me, I just get really scared when she goes to hit me because I think she really will beat me. Maybe I am abusing that law or stretching it out a bit, but oh well that is how I feel. I also never said they did beat me, infact they have never laid a hand on me as I recall. I hear all these stories, including these threads, and it scares me. I will never trust anyone ever in this world not even my own mother and father. It's just the way I am. I'm like my bunny-if one thing happens, I will never trust them again. Now please do not think I am weird or have a twisted life, even if it is true. OK?

Last time I checked in order to "hit" someone you have to "lay a hand on them".

How can any of us take her claims seriously if she doesn't even have her facts straight?

Which is why I'm guessing many are angry here and accusing her of just trying to get attention.

Is she afraid of her mom? Perhaps. But I'm 25 years old and I still feel afraid if my mom is upset at me. Afraid that she'll hit me? No. Afraid that she'll be dissapointed with me. My mom's trust and respect mean the world to me.

my 2 cents.....

[Tanya&Fritz]

I think someone should PM her mom. I would, but I don't know her. She's only 12, why is she on this site???

[All Creatures Great And Small]

Originally posted by popcornbird


A middle age adult with a full life experience yelling at a 12 year old kid is not nice at all.

No, but that's what parenting is - it's not always about warm fuzzies. I'm not Mother Teresa; if a kid (even my own) grates on my nerves that much, I might impart some of my "life experience" in a crabby way, especially if the kid in question has been told NUMEROUS times that her behavior is unacceptable and still persists. I start out asking my daughter nicely, to do something. After several hours, several "nice" requests, and nothing but disrepect and inaction in return, I blow a verbal fuse. Several people have tried nicely with Britt, but she's not getting the message. (Notice that I did not use foul language or character assasination, just some theories on what the problem might be, and suggestions on where to find sites where her stories might be better appreciated.) I wouldn't care if it were just about her, but this is a pet forum, and she has animals that aren't being treated well. Life is not always nice; parents who coddle their children aren't doing them any favors, although I must say, Popcornbird, that your parents seem to have done a good job with you - you're very intelligent and literate. Unfortunately, some of us parents weren't blessed with cooperative, respectful kids like you, so our job of molding their little personalities is sometimes beyond our ability. And yes, my daughter is sometimes VERY rude, and that's been her basic personality since birth, pretty much, although in her teen years it has really exploded. I do read ALL of her posts on here, and I don't agree with a lot of them or the way they are imparted, so she and I discuss it, but she usually decides to express herself the way she wants to. She needs to experience the results from her actions, like the scoldings she gets on Pet Talk - if she hears it from more people than just me, she might get it. (Kind of like when I let her smack her head on the dashboard - she needs to have things demonstrated graphically because she is EXTREMELY bull-headed and argumentative.) Oh, and by the way, YLL - I LOVE YOU - ALWAYS HAVE, ALWAYS WILL even though you don't make it easy at times .

Oh, and this is from the registration page on Pet Talk - You must be over the age of 13 to register. If you agree to the terms, and are over 13, please press the Agree button at the end of the page.

[Nomilynn]

Originally posted by popcornbird
A middle age adult with a full life experience yelling at a 12 year old kid is not nice at all.

My parents didn't think they could have children, so when they stopped trying I showed up They were in their mid thirties when the had me. I think I respect my parents more that they are older, because I don't feel like they ever tried to me my friends. They were my parents. Now that I am an adult my mom and dad are my best friends, but never when I was younger and I still needed parenting. I still rely on them for help and guidance, and I always will, but I think that our relationship is what it is today because of the experience they brought with them when they became parents. I don't want to have any kids until I'm in my thirties either. I'm 22 now and I know I'm not mature enough to have kids, nor am I financially stable or finished my education! I am glad that it worked out the way it did, because I think being older made my parents that much greater at it!

[luckies4me]

Ok I know this has nothing to do with the topic, but I want to have all my kids by the time I am thirty!

Got one so far, two more wouldn't hurt. A womens child bearing years are being cut shorter every year and i alreadyhad enough trouble with this pregnancy and lost a baby a few months ago. I think it is great that when my son is 14 I will still be able to romp around and play tag with him.

[zippy-kat]

Originally posted by All Creatures Great And Small
Oh, and this is from the registration page on Pet Talk - You must be over the age of 13 to register. If you agree to the terms, and are over 13, please press the Agree button at the end of the page.

The implicit rule is you have to have parental permission if under 13.

And, *I think*, Britt's mother did give her approval via email along time ago. It seems like that was either in a post somewhere or in one of my past PM's.

I do know FOR SURE that Britt had the "OK" to participate in the Christmas Card exchange.
I wasn't certain if Britt was telling the truth about havin' her Mom's ok. To make a long story short, I asked Karen to become involved. She found out that it was against the law to send mass mailings to anyone under the age of 13 (15? I forgot now) unless there was parental permission. I do know that Karen spoke over the phone to Britt's mother and approval was given.

[zippy-kat]

Originally posted by kingrattus
Lips Died lastnight.

My sympathy for the passing of Lips.

[NoahsMommy]

I think we need to see Britt for what she is and what she's doing. I agree she's young and just needs attention. For whatever reason that may be...

So, Britt....if you feel you are truley, deathly afraid of your parents, seek help. 9-1-1 or your local police station can be of great help. If you chose to go that route, you and your sister will be taken away from your family and most likely be placed in a foster home. You will be safe and away from an abusive situation.

If you DON'T feel afraid of your parents, then you need to realize how the world works. Our parents have power over us until we are 18 years old. We respect their authority...no matter what, even if they make choices and decisions that we don't like. Of course its hard to accept this, even at 24 (and married), I struggle with what my mom says and does...but I've heard that will happen as long as we are both alive.

So, if you need help...ask. If not, please don't sound false alarms. It is very cruel to children that DO need this help...and a total waste of time.

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by kingrattus
Lips Died lastnight.

I'm very sorry...

[Logan]

Kingrattus, I am sorry about your "lips". I don't even know what kind of pet it is, but it is always hard to lose one.

As for the whole FloppsySallyLady issue........I think we need to let it die, folks. Karen and Paul can handle it as they see fit. I have my opinion, but I think I will keep it to myself.

Logan
A mother of one human child, who hopes her child never has reason to rant about her on the internet.

[lizbud]

FLS,


" Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?"--Fanny Brice

[kingrattus]

Thanks for noticine that Lips died. Lips was my pet goldfish. He was the biggest I have ever ownedhe was about 8" long & about 4-5 " tall, he was fat & had a huge hump on his back... I name him lips cause he has big lips & he made loud sounds when he was eating his food. It was horrible to see ur pet riped to shreds, all that was left were his guts & nothing more

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by kingrattus
Thanks for noticine that Lips died. Lips was my pet goldfish. He was the biggest I have ever ownedhe was about 8" long & about 4-5 " tall, he was fat & had a huge hump on his back... I name him lips cause he has big lips & he made loud sounds when he was eating his food. It was horrible to see ur pet riped to shreds, all that was left were his guts & nothing more

Oh My! What happened to poor lips? I send my best regards your way and know that your beloved fishie is swimming the clear blue sees of heaven.

[kohala]

Was he a goldfish or an oscar? Who shredded him? Poor baby -

[Karen]

Poor Lips, he must be in fishy heaven now, poor Lips.


As for "Why FLS is allowed on the site, even though she is 12 ..."

In case anyone is wondering, the law states that a child CAN be allowed on a site like this if they have parental permission. I did, indeed, speak to Britt's mother on the telephone, we had quite a long conversation, and she promised me several things, and said, Yes, she gave official permission for her daughter to both participate in this site, and participate in the Christmas Card list.

When you register, if you hit the "after such and such a date" for your birthday, it tells you to get parental permission, and emails us, the administrators, to alert us to look for it, before the person is approved.