Major Worries! IT's EVEN WORSE!!!

[kimlovescats]

Many of you have kept up with my daughter (Amy Beth / Jenna's mom) and her problems for a while now. We just this week got them moved into an apartment by themselves ... away from the low-life husband / father. They moved in the day before Thanksgiving ... 2 days ago.

Tonight my daughter called me from work and told me that this afternoon, her "husband" came to her apartment and told her that he was going to kill two of her guy friends. He did this outside in the parking lot with Amy Beth and Jenna. He then proceeded to lift his shirt and show her a GUN in his pants!!!!! He further threatened that if she told anyone, "don't think I won't kill you too!" As he left in his car, he again flashed the gun in the air at her.

After this happened, she came by my house to pick up her wash of work clothes. She never said a word to me, but I saw her talking to our neighbor who is a security guard before she left in her car. She held this all in while she decided what the best thing to do would be.

Anyway, by the time she called me from work (7:00 pm.) she had called the police, they had come to her work to talk with her, and Chad had been picked up and taken to jail. He is already a felon for at least two robbery and drug charges, and has served two short terms in jail. He just got off state probation a few weeks ago! So, he is now in jail .... BUT he might still be able to post bail!!!!

Amy Beth couldn't talk long from work, so she told me a few short details. She has a court date for Jan. 2nd, she is to file an Order of Protection on Monday ... she has been given a name of a shelter to go to if she and Jenna need it. Also, supposedly she said she actually heard them police say that "the weapon was in custody" from over the police car scanner. I hope to God she is right!!!! If he was indeed picked up and found with the GUN, then being a felon, that is a federal offence! (According to what she has been told) I am still in shock and as I said, only have bits of information.

Jenna was in his mother's care tonight, so Amy Beth was going to call to see if her "father" (who is only speaking to her again since the past 2 days) will go with her tonight to get Jenna from Chad's mom. I know this is very hard to keep up with, and I am having a tough time typing it as well.

Any way, I think you can see that things have gotten VERY DANGEROUS and I am TERRIFIED!!!! IF he gets out of jail, we are all in danger!!!!! We just got her and Jenna in an apartment, for 2 days now and now this! We were hoping he wouldn't find out where they were staying, but we figured it was just a matter of time. Apparently he saw my husband while he was actually hauling her bed over there, and followed him.

I'm so confused right now, I can't even think clearly enough to make sense typing any more. PLEASE PRAY FOR US ALL!!!!!!!!

Kim

[flamepony12]

How terrible! I can imagine how scary that must have been for you, as well as your daughter, of course.. I'll keep you all in my thoughs. Prayers are on the way.. ((((HUGS))))

[Catty1]

Can you talk to the police and ask for some safety measures? That he not get bail?

A protection order is good, but Amy Beth and Jenna have to be in a safe place, since the order is only as good as its enforcement.

PRAYERS to you! At least - she sees what an animal he is!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kim, I'm so sorry to hear this. This is so scary. I sure hope that Amy Beth and Jenna will have the protection that they deserve and that Chad won't try to do anything to either of them or to any one in your family. Lot's of prayers and positive thoughts are being sent their way and to you as well. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[cassiesmom]

How terrible! I'll keep you all in my thoughts. Prayers are on the way.. ((((HUGS))))

ME, TOO (((hugs)))

[kimlovescats]

So much for the thoughts that Amy Beth is "doing everything right". She called me this morning around 10:00 a.m. to tell me that she was being arrested and taken to jail! She said that "her" private investigator charged her with filing a false complaint (or something like that) for the call about Chad being at her apartment yesterday. I don't know what to believe. But regardless of whether this charge is rightful or not, is NOT the issue. While Amy Beth was gone to meet with the P.I.... she had left Jenna at home in the apartment ALONE!!! At the time of this call to me, Jenna was STILL home alone and had been for close to 2 hours!!! Needless to say, I screamed and yelled at my daughter for being so stupid and negligent. All she could do was say how her charges were so unfair and everything was Chad's fault. She thought the meeting with the P.I. would only "take about 5 minutes" and today was MY day off from keeping Jenna, and she just didn't want to deal with taking Jenna along. Jenna is TWO, and she gets restless and fussy in public places, so DEAL WITH IT!!! Don't leave her HOME ALONE!!!!

I immediately got off the phone with her and got my husband to rush to the apartment to get Jenna. We called the apt. manager to have maintenance meet us there with a key. (Amy Beth didn't want me to have a key even though WE co-signed for her lease!) Any way when we got to the apartment their were 2 cop cars there. I literally ran into the apartment screaming for Jenna!!! Thank God she was ok and the cops had fixed her some Fruit Loops to snack on. No doubt the first she had to eat all day! I grabbed Jenna right into my arms and bawled my eyes out for a very long time. I just cannot believe that Amy Beth did this. To add insult to injury there were items on the counter that were very upsetting and harmful! All out in visible sight on the counter. All of this was documented, video taped, and photographed. There was also no food in the cabinets and the small bit of milk was out of date. I just gave her over $200.00 of her own money this past Friday to buy groceries for the next two weeks, and she hadn't bought anything! I can only assume that she is buying drugs instead of food for her baby. I know that Amy Beth has still been eating fast food. Yesterday I asked if Jenna had eaten lunch, and her response was "oh, she ate a little bit of a taco ... but I don't think she liked it .. so yeah, she probably is hungry!" In otherwords, she bought herself tacos, Jenna got a bite or two and nothing else. Grammy always feeds her when she gets here.

I am so beside myself with shock, fear, disgust, and broken-heartedness that I can barely think straight. Amy Beth's bondswoman just called me to co-sign to let her bail out .... I refused. This was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. I have no doubt that my daughter thinks that I have turned my back on her. I told the bondswoman to explain to her that it is the fact that she left Jenna home alone, and in an unsafe environment, that was the final straw for me.

DCS approved us to keep Jenna for now ... thank GOD we got there in time so that she wasn't put in foster care! It is only good until Dec. 27 but the DCS worker said that it will most likely be extended at that time. I just hope and pray that they never let Chad come and get her either!

I am so frazzled right now, please pray for us.

[catfamily]

OMG! Kim...I'm so so sorry.This is horrible to say the least.She is NOT doing the right thing...like we assumed she WAS doing the right thing..
You have so much on your plate Kim..I wish I could help you in some way.
You have all the cats...now a new baby living under your care...and you now have to worry about what's going to happen in the future with your daughter and if they eventually put your granddaughrer in foster care.I hope it never comes to that.I PRAY it never comes to that.
Prayers...extra for you and your family from Maine.I hope they work.

[kittycats_delight]

Oh Kim, I don't even know what to say. I am soooo soooo very sorry. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope something good finally comes out of this. Poor little Jenna. Thank God she has you. Be strong I know it is hard but you are the only strength Jenna has. So be strong for her. And in turn we will be strong for you.


((((HUGS))))
Again I am sooo sorry for all this nightmare.

[critter crazy]

OMG!!! I just cannot imagine what you are going through right now!!! I am so sorry you are having to deal with this!! Thank god you got there in time to take care of Jenna!! Poor baby!!! I think you did the best thing, by not paying the bail!! She definitely needs to think about what she has done!! Especially to her child!!! Prayers for you!!!

[borzoimom]

Good Lord I am shell shocked! I am totally speechless.. I am worried she may loose the child but maybe its the best thing if she came to live with you.. I really am at a loss for words here. No food in the house- drugs??? And her image to the court is more important now than any time in her life... I am just totally speechless. You are SO IN MY PRAYERS !!!!! SO IN MY PRAYERS!!!

[moosmom]

Kim,

I'm glad to hear you have Jenna. She is in the best place right now, with her grandparents. I think Amy Beth is where she belongs at this point too. She lied to you. And I think there is far more to the story than she is letting on. To deny your child the simple basics in order to get high is despicable. I hope DCS will let you keep Jenna. She deserves two people who love her and will keep her safe. You've given Amy Beth every opportunity to get clean and take care of her child. It's obvious that getting high is far more important. It's time to think of Jenna and her well being.

Love and hugs to you, Kim. I'm sorry you have to go through this, especially during the holiday season. If there is ANYTHING I can do, please PM me, okay?

[Craftlady]

I've been reading along here keeping up-to-date and this latest event is sure a shock. I'm so sorry your having to go through this with your daughter.

You did the right thing by not bailing her out. She needs to sit there realize the consequences of her actions.

DCS is on the ball seeing that your home is a safe place for Jenna. Having them extend it past the Dec 27th date shouldnt be a problem, I wouldnt think.
DCS is more than likely aware of the "fathers" actions too so IF they were to allow visitation it would be under supervision or what they call "supervised" visits.

Since you have a good relationship with the DCS caseworker, you will have a heads up on what is going to happen in the future.

I would contact a lawyer for advise on how you should proceed to keep Jenna's best interests in forefront.

Will keep good thoughts and prayers.

[kt_luvs_kitties]

I am praying for you all. What a sad and scary situation to be in. Please keep your doors locked and the windows closed and locked as well. I would suggest Amy Beth and Jenna go to somewhere where he cant find them. Maybe a hotel or something for a few days...
I had this happen to me before.. Way before my husband! And he pulled a gun, I called the police and they did not do anything to him. It is hard when noone is willing to go the extra mile to make sure everyone is protected.
And maybe you could atleast get someone to call you when he does make bail (from the courthouse) so you all can be prepared. Hugs to you and your family. I hope all works itself out. And I am glad Amy Beth decided to call the police. That is a step in the right direction.

[Lizzie]

Kim - this is terrible news and I'm not surprised you are terrified, I would be also. This guy sounds like the super-controlling type and they are dangerous. The image of him showing his gun and threatening to kill your daugher right in front of his own daughter is chilling and makes me deeply concerned for their welfare. Will you be able to find out if he gets out on bail? In your daughter's place, I would go right to the refuge if he gets out/when he gets out. Or at least place Jenna somewhere safe. Do you have relatives or close friends in another part of the state. Not that such a change wouldn't be incredibly traumatic for her. I'd be worried that he would hurt Jenna to payback your daughter.

What does your husband think about all this? Does he feel that you are all unsafe?

[luvofallhorses]

omg! if they have to...have them go to the shelter. they'll be safe there. please keep yourself safe, too!! (((HUGS))) you all will be held close in my thoughts and prayers. what a bastard!