How many children do want/have?

[4 Dog Mother]

I have 2 daughters, Amy, 29 - Cincy'smom and Christy, 23, Dakota's mommy. My son, Rob was 27 when he died in July. Christy has a 21 month old Jasmine who is the most precious child in the world! She is what is getting us through this awful time.

Having children is the greatest blessing you can have IF you want them. No one should be told they SHOULD have children (except for my daughter, Amy, LOL). While there are a blessing, they are also a lot of work and worry. And no matter how old they get, they are still your babies and you still worrry about them.

I have 5 dogs and they are my babies too. I love them alot but FOR ME, the love I have from them while extremely strong is not nearly as strong as I have for the children who came from and grew within me. They are so much a part of the love I have for Carl and nothing FOR ME can compare with that!

My sister chose not to have children and she feels that was the right decision for her - and I don't think she was wrong in that decision. Again it is important that each person decide for themselves what is right for them. The one thing about pets is they love you unconditionally. They love you no matter what!

[jazzcat]

I don't have any children and don't plan to (probably can't so it's a good thing it's not my life's dream). Since I'm about to turn 38 that chapter will be coming to an end soon anyway, although my mother had me when she was 43 years old.

I have enough to keep me busy with taking caring of my Dad (and my mother before she passed away last year). I've always kind of thought of them as my really big children, LOL. With my Dad being 83 and having severe memory problems it's like having a big baby sometimes anyway.

I do get very tired of people asking when are we going to have a baby. They've quit asking so much the past few years but it drove me crazy in my 20s and early 30s.

[sammy101]

i would probably like to have 2 or 3. but im only 15 so i have a while to decide still

[sirrahved]

Not fourteen, but not just one or two.

[Tollers-n-Dobes]

I never want to have any kids...

[CagneyDog]

3, but i want to adopt them all.

[Suki Wingy]

I'd be devestated if I couldn't have children because I don't think I'm the type of person to adopt a child.

I don't understand. I think that if for some reason I wanted kids and I couldn't I'd adopt before I went to one of those clinics. Why try so hard for your own when there are other children who need supportive homes?

[popcornbird]

I don't understand. I think that if for some reason I wanted kids and I couldn't I'd adopt before I went to one of those clinics. Why try so hard for your own when there are other children who need supportive homes?

Everyone has their own choice. I would love to adopt a needy child someday...it is such a rewarding thing to do, BUT...I'd like to have my own child first. Then again, it depends on God's will. If I couldn't have children, I would adopt, but I somehow believe the feeling of a child developing in your own womb is just different. Everyone has their own choice when it comes to kids...no reason to 'not understand'.

[NoahsMommy]

I've always thought that if I had kids, I'd adopt. From a very early age, I knew that there were kids without mommies and daddies and that touched me. Sure, it'd be nice to have a child that shared my DNA...but I personally (MY OWN OPINON, NOT JUDGEMENT) feel that its selfish (OF ME, NOT OTHERS) to have more kids when the world is full of kids that need loving, supportive parents. I know I could make a parentless child's life better if I were there.

I also have health issues that I'd NEVER willingly inflict on a child. That is one things I'm judgemental on. IF YOU HAVE AN ILLNESS THAT IS GENETIC, PLEASE BE UNSELFISH AND ADOPT IF YOU NEED TO BE A MOTHER/FATHER!! That is one of my very large pet peeves. KNOWINGLY subjecting an innocent child to the ravages of disease is very cruel. (please note, I said knowingly...not UNKNOWINGLY)

Anyway....off my soapbox now.

I'd like 1 or 2...adopted only. I think it'd be an honor to be a parent of a child in need. They've already begun life unfairly, they deserve someone that values and loves them.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I do get very tired of people asking when are we going to have a baby. They've quit asking so much the past few years but it drove me crazy in my 20s and early 30s.

That is something I have a hard time with. I'm only 24 and I'm constantly asked "when are you going to have a baby?" It angers me so much. People need to learn to mind their own business.
There is one woman who I know (I don't know her too well, she's a friend of my in-laws) who literally heiresses me everytime she sees me. She will go on and on about how great kids are and how I have to have one. I put up with her heirassment because I don't want to share my personal information with her as to why Justin and I have not yet had a child yet. (I have very abnormal cycles and therefore we are having a hard time conceiving. I have seen the doctor and she can't find any reason we can't have a baby, it will just be harded for us to hit that special day.) I really don't want to share that with her. I don't want everyone in my town to know my personal business and with her knowing they would. I have a hard time standing up to her because she beats me down and upsets me and then I can't stand up for myself (I don't know if that makes sense). This woman is incredible, she is the force that cannot be stopped. Seriously, Justin has tried to stop her from heirassing me, his mom has tried, and so have others, but she keeps going. Anyway, we don't see her too often and if we are supposed to be somewhere she is going to be we send our regards and don't go. I know there are (or at least should be) better ways of handling her, but avoiding her is what works best for us.

[CountryWolf07]

1 or 2 kids would be good..

[luvofallhorses]

I haven't totally thought about this...but I am still young and have all the time in the world to decide. I am not so sure if I want kids, I love them don't get me wrong. If I do want kids, I either want 2 (a boy and a girl) but if I don't get a boy and a girl, I'll be happy whatever that God decides for me to have...if I for some reason can't have kids, I am going to adopt. There are so many kids out there that needs homes, just like animals do. It's so sad.

[animal_rescue]

Well I grew up in a semi-large family, 7 kids. 2 from my mom's first marriage, 3 from my mom's second marriage, and 2 adopted. I'm a twin and from the second marriage, I seriously don't know what I would do if I were an only child, it would be so boring!! Anyways I would like a big family as well, umm I definatly want to have twins or triplets but in all I would like 6-8 kids. I'm constantly being told that I would make a great mom. forgot to mention that 2 of my kids will probably adopted, I would love to get a little girl from China and a boy from Russia, but who knows, I'm only 15!

[Cataholic]

One little boy, Jonah. He is everything I never knew he would or could ever be to me. Having Jonah made my life complete, and I didn't even know it wasn't complete!!! I do seriously wonder how I was happy before him. He is the absolute coolest thing in the world. And, he is a monkey child.

Here he is enjoying his first pile of leaves....

[prechrswife]

We have one on the way (through adoption), and would like 3 or 4.