Ti is going to a new home tomorrow

**Christiansmommy** · 07-20-2003, 09:58 PM

Sas, you sound just like i did a year and a month ago. Getting off the phone with you (around this time last year), made me feel confindent about my decision in rehoming Gabe. The nice bengal breeder is like how you were to me in my dilema with Gabe...she is your last and final hope (and a postive one that you will feel good about...a breath of fresh air). So you can finally find Ti a good home, like i was so very lucky in doing for Gabe.

I know you are stressed...like you said, i have been there. You will feel so much better after you have handed him off to a good person. I hope you are as lucky as i was...it sounds like you will be....this breeder sounds great...just like you were to me, so willing to help someone in such need, like a said...the breath of fresh air that i needed...i am glad you got in touch with her.

You deserve for this to be all over, so i will pray that a nice home is in the making.

Please keep us updated...i wish i was closer, so i could be of some help...cyber hugs, once again

Robyn

I just wanted to add, if it wasnt for you, Gabe would have probably ended up at a no-kill shelter (and lived there for the rest of his life), i was at my wits end...so you need no reason to explain why you were thinking about sending him to the mean breeder lady...its a tough situation that you just needed a way to end...so you could go on with your life peacefully. We understand and are here for you!!!

**BastetsMum** · 07-20-2003, 11:40 PM

I wish I was in your area. I would take Ti straight away but living in Australia its a little hard to do.

He looks a real sweety and I am sure Bastet would give him a run for his money.

Best of luck Sas, you are definately doing the right thing.

HUGS

**Barbara** · 07-21-2003, 03:06 AM

When some days ago people suggested you should re-home Miley I found myself thinking of flying over and get her

(Yes I am crazy). I knew however that you would not let her go. (I wouldn't have let her go either).

However with Ti there is nothing like that I could offer as Filou is similar to Miley -his character may be between Miley and Graemer but a little closer to Miley.

I am glad however that the nice breeder will help you. I am sure Ti can find a good place and many people are crazy about Bengals so I am sure there is love and fun for him out there.

I can imagine how stressed you feel. I hope we all here can help you stand it a little longer

Kissies to sweet Miley and to you

**Vio&Juni** · 07-21-2003, 04:15 AM

SAS, I am glad you re-considered your idea to give TiTi to the original breeder. She doesn't sound trustworthy to me. TiTi is such a cutie and I would have loved to have him if I lived closer. I hope you and the nice breeder will find a more appropriate home for him, knowing his problems.

**sasvermont** · 07-21-2003, 05:53 AM

I had a good night's sleep. That is good! Ti slept somewhere other than my bed and little Juni (the itch) slept right next to me. She really is a little sweetheart. Full of energy, sweet as honey and so darn cute! She is a fierce little thing, but not mean. She does not play FOR KEEPS. Ti does.

Ti is on the porch right now and believe me, it is nice to get put there rather than a room. The porch is 40 feet long and 8 feet wide with all the accomodations of a hotel for cats! He will have to stay there until he leaves. I even have a TV out there and watch the news each night......while reading my mail etc. I don't think I will put Juni with him, not knowing what he is capable of at this point.

Since Ti's nasty treatment of Miley, I have been watching how he plays with Juni. He traps her every now and then and mounts her, not sexually, but covers her completely. She is so tiny and wirey that she wiggles out from under him....but I wonder as she gets older, if she will be so agile. Thus, I will not leave her alone with Ti. Sad, but true.

I just know that once I see Miley in a couple of hours, I will be so convinced that giving Ti a new home is the right thing to do.

Do I feel ok with keeping him a while longer? Yes, its ok. You know, I have been through so much with him that adding a couple of weeks to the ordeal will be ok, knowing that he will have a really good chance of finding a good home this time. I really, really like the nice and oh so good VT, retired, bengal breeder, Tamara. ....I was hoping she would have gotten back to me sooner this week. I mentioned that I could deal with the prospective new homes myself and she insisted that she handle it! She is so nice and so loves the Bengal breed. She said one of the reason she got out of the business was that too many breeders were in it for the money only and not careful enough for her. She said she usually "petted out" most of her litters, as she couldn't consider them more than pets to be loved even though many were show quality.

So here I am, with the same three silly cats I have had since Juni arrived! I guess I will have to set a deadline for closure on this situation.

Off to the shower to get ready to pick up Ms. Miley. I have Ti locked on the porch. There is no way he can get in the house. I will lock the door to Miley's room as well, in case Ti breaks through a window to get in. I just doubt that, but you never know about Ti!

Thanks for all of your wonderful words and thoughts. I can handle this, it sounds much worse than it really is..... I usually spend my time "getting things done and over with" and this situation keeps dragging on and on! Yikes.

Thank you Bastests Mom and Barbara, for considering such kind acts from such a distance away!

And thank you Vermontcat for being such a good support system so close to home.

And thank you Robyn, sweet mom to everyone, for your thoughts and prayers. . And Pam, thank you too, your words of support have been good....

And Aly and Jen and everyone, thank you.

I promise this will have a happy ending.

COME ON ENDING!

**shais_mom** · 07-21-2003, 07:37 AM

I think Ti would do well in a home as an only cat or with a medium size/large breed- cat- friendly dog, that he can roughhouse with.
Keep your chin up! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!

**sasvermont** · 07-21-2003, 08:49 AM

Well, the vet was very happy with her improvement and so am I.

She will need to go back to the vet on Wed. to have the drains removed. She will be fine and we are hoping that she will not have any nerve damage.

Got to get some work done here.

Later!

**HayleyRosie** · 07-21-2003, 09:06 AM

I sure this will have a happy ending. It's good to hear that Miley is doing okay. I'm really sorry I must have missed a lot. Did Ti bite Miley?

**Barbara** · 07-21-2003, 09:18 AM

Rose if you go at the end of the old thread you'll see what happened to Miley....

Sas: great that she's back. I am checking later

**ramanth** · 07-21-2003, 11:00 AM

Gracious.... what an ordeal.

I'm glad that the NICE breeder is going to help find a home for Ti.

Give kisses to Miley girl. She's such a strong one.

**rosethecopycat** · 07-21-2003, 11:30 AM

Originally posted by Barbara
Rose if you go at the end of the old thread you'll see what happened to Miley....

Sas: great that she's back. I am checking later

What's this thread called?

I had no idea Miley was injured.

I'm glad you're doing the right thing SAS.

**Barbara** · 07-21-2003, 12:08 PM

http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthre...threadid=30462

This is the thread -it's p 4 and 5 mainly.

**catland** · 07-21-2003, 12:55 PM

You are doing the right thing for Miley. Its interesting to read how Bengals can be as little as four generations away from having a wild ancestor. This explains a lot. It sounds like Ti was just trying to run Miley off of his territory - but as a house cat, she had no where to go.

Also, we've been domesticating our feline friends for hundreds, if not thousands of generations. Its no wonder that one that is just a handful of generations from the wild would be so aggressive.

Finally, if this really settles the matter - how long until Ti would have turned on Juni? He sounds like a great cat - but not one for you or your Aby girls. Since his breeder sounds so flaky, I'm guessing that he probably didn't get the required extra-socialization that a bengal kitten would require to be a better pet.
Sounds like the best situation for him would be as an only cat or as a cat with a bengal "brother" or "sister".

I hope that he finds his right forever home and that you find peace for you, Miley, and Juni.

**Randi** · 07-21-2003, 12:59 PM

Sas, you have made the right decision in my opinion - you can't risk any more injuries on Miley girl! She has been so brave. I wish she could come back to a Ti free house, but she'll soon realize that he's staying on the porch and hopefully be able to relax.

I'm glad to hear that the nice breeder is working on finding Ti the right home, the one you got him from is no good news!!

I know this has been very hard on you, but I hope you can see the light in the end of the tunnel.

Kisses to Miley girl - I hope she'll recover from her wounds quickly!

Best of luck!!!

**Vermontcat** · 07-21-2003, 01:08 PM

I just sent Sas a PM about finding someone in my area who may be able to help
and I sent her a link to a Bengal breeder in NH since I couldn't find any listed in Vermont.
You may all like to look at the NH breeder's website, some cute kitten photos there and it sounds like a nice place.

www.klassikbengals.com