Mystic is gone! :(

[luckies4me]

I was going to tell you the good news I had for all of you, but obviously you all would rather tell me how I cannot fford my pets and how I don't provide for them!

[lizbud]

What ever became of your old dog Wolfy? Is he still in
California & in the same sad circumstances?

[zippy-kat]

Originally posted by luckies4me
There is NO ONE, I repeat NO ONE t baby sit Dylan. I am not going to leave him with college pot smoking idiots (and yes they ALL smoke pot!), not to mention they go to school all day long.

You're right. We don't know the whole situation but when you give slim details, you get broad judgements. (That's not saying that we *want* or *need* to know a detailed auto-biography of your family...) Basically, all we knew was that the cat was hurt and your finances were tight. I think that all PTers will agree that giving up an animal is THE last resort. But sometimes, rehoming is the only solution. Hopefully, you've found a way around that and are able to get him the medical care he needs.

At any rate, what I wanted to comment on.... "college pot smoking idiots." For every 'pot smoking idiot' I'm willing to bet there are two or three who don't/aren't.

My old college roommate found a baby-sitting job through the university's placement/career services office. Why not call a local college/university and 'place an ad' -- interviews can be conducted 'in house' by YOU and/or Your Hubby; you'll be hiring someone you feel comfortable with. Explain to them the situation OR if you don't want them to know about your finances, tell them they are "under observation" for __ wks, at the end of which they will be paid; subsequent pay checks will follow every __ wk.

Just an idea-

[mugsy]

I'm not trying to be mean here, but you opened yourself for judegments when you posted on a public forum about your problems. Trust me, I know what it's like to be stuckat home. I was stuck at home and not allowed to leave for over 2 months last year when I broke my leg. I do know about financiial problems. but I don't post it on here. Not judging, just telling you that when you post things like that, people get upset.

I am really sorry that Mystic is hurt and I think that people's reactions are in response to his injury. I'm sure that a vet somewhere would allow you to make payments to them. We do that all the time.

I wish you luck on your current dilema and hope that it all works out in the end. I'm truly sorry about your step-mother's death and your father's illness. Illness and death are never easy to deal with.

[All Creatures Great And Small]

Originally posted by luckies4me
Every winter the company slows down and we have to deal with it. Like I said, if anyone read it closely in one of my first posts, I said that when WE get our taxes ALL that money will go to childcare expenses. Like I said, we are always fine until November or December, this just so happened to come at a bad time. I know what I am doing.

If this happens every November and December, you should be putting away money from January until October then. If you are getting THAT much of a tax refund, you are paying too much in taxes and should re-calculate your withholding so that you have that money to save all year. Why let the government hold it for you interest-free until spring? Lower your withholding, and then take that money and put it in the bank to use when things slow down. As far as you working, you could work nights when Dan gets home so he could watch Dylan - not work as a vet tech, since that's a day job, but work ANYWHERE - McDonalds, KMart, a gas station, whatever. (I've worked in retail for years, and I am not ashamed and don't feel it's "beneath me" at all.) It would be pure income since you won't be paying out anything for childcare. When my daughter was a baby, that's what we did - he worked days and I worked nights. It would probably do you good to get out of the house anyway, to lower your stress level. I can sympathize TOTALLY with being trapped in a house with no car and a baby all day. You shouldn't be so defensive, because you obviously DON'T know what you're doing at this point, since these financial problems are an annual problem. That may be why your family does not want to offer you any help anymore, since you are not open to suggestions on better ways to manage your money. We had the same problem with my sister, and if we suggested that maybe she could manage her money a little better, she'd bite our heads off. Eventually we had to do the "tough love" approach, and let her work things out on her own to learn a valuable lesson. We are all here to offer sympathy, of course, but we are also here to offer HELP, in this case in the form of good financial and/or lifestyle advice, and we are all here to promote the proper care of pets, too. A lot of us were sickened by the thought of that poor cat suffering with that broken leg and nothing being done.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by luckies4me
I was going to tell you the good news I had for all of you, but obviously you all would rather tell me how I cannot fford my pets and how I don't provide for them!

...And, to think anyone of us would care, read, write, etc., to you, and have you make the above statement. That is immature, irresponsible, and just plain childish, not to mention hateful. You need, as I posted before about someone else, a good old-fashioned swift kick in the pants to get off your self pity mobile. Trust me, the road you are on is bumpy, hard, and not made any easier by whining.

[All Creatures Great And Small]

Originally posted by luckies4me (on 12/6/02)
Thanks! I have about every variety imaginable. I am getting a shipment of DownUnder rats from Austraila in a few days and I will be one of the first (along with a friend of mine) to have tis type in all the US!!!!!!!!!!

I sincerely hope that these rats are for immediate resale, and that your breeding enterprise is bringing in a profit. If you are adding these to your private menagerie, then you really need to re-think WHY. I also agree that your last post was very immature, and a slap in the face to anyone who sent you money and would appreciate knowing how it was spent. Hopefully you will have the grace and good manners to PM those persons and thank them, and let them know about the cat. I guess the rest of us will have to content ourselves with not hearing about it's pain and suffering any more.

[DogMania]

Originally posted by Cataholic


...And, to think anyone of us would care, read, write, etc., to you, and have you make the above statement. That is immature, irresponsible, and just plain childish, not to mention hateful. You need, as I posted before about someone else, a good old-fashioned swift kick in the pants to get off your self pity mobile. Trust me, the road you are on is bumpy, hard, and not made any easier by whining.

No, she is not you should get a kick in the pants. Don't think that just because she needs one you don't. Does anyone agree with me here?????

[NoahsMommy]

You may not be able to remove yourself from your situation like we can, but you really need to.

You, above all, have a CHILD to look after. You need to have a life where you can provide for him. I know you've said that you can and do...but not having money for gas is NOT providing for your son.

Don't think I don't know what you are feeling....my hubby and I had to scrape together five dollars last night for him to get to work and back today. I am in the same boat this month...but I don't have children...and my cats have food and vet care.

I'm sorry if these comments sounds mean. I am speaking from experience being a child advocate. This is a very sore subject in my heart. So, please forgive if I sound too harsh...

I know you think you are stuck, but you really aren't. You say your parents and your bf's parents wont lend you money. I would imagine that stems from you asking in the past. I would also assume if you laid out a plan to fix your current problems and show them some action, they would be more than willing to help. I also know, that churches have ways to help you too. You need to do something about your situation. Its much bigger than not being able to afford the vet bill this month.

You said that without contact with your family, you would go insane. WHY are you in Oregon then? If you aren't married, what is keeping you there? (Not that that should matter, the happiness of you and your son are most important.)

You need to see that the people here are trying to help. We not trying to be mean and ruin your day. We do actually care...

[All Creatures Great And Small]

Originally posted by DogMania
Does anyone agree with me here?????

NO

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by DogMania


No, she is not you should get a kick in the pants. Don't think that just because she needs one you don't. Does anyone agree with me here?????

I am guessing, 12? Tops, 13?????

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by DogMania
No, she is not you should get a kick in the pants. Don't think that just because she needs one you don't. Does anyone agree with me here?????

Cataholic is RIGHT ON! Sorry DogMania...the comment above was extremely childish and this thread is proving to be a waste of our time.

[Uabassoon]

No, she is not you should get a kick in the pants. Don't think that just because she needs one you don't. Does anyone agree with me here?????

Nope

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by lizbud
What ever became of your old dog Wolfy? Is he still in
California & in the same sad circumstances?

If you people would read the whole thread Wolfy is not mine!!! He was my spycho ex boyfriends sisters dog who got abandoned. My bf kept the dog while I was still living there. When he tried to kill me I was in the emergency room for two weeks, then I moved back to my parents who lived in a VERY small apartment. I could not take the dog, not to mention I had a restraining order against him and was not going to risk my life breaking into their house. The dog is also unsocial because they never took him anywhere for the past five years, which mind you I was not there. He is still there and yes inthe same circumstances but I am getting a phone card today so I can call the Humane Society and have him and his sister removed.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by zippy-kat


You're right. We don't know the whole situation but when you give slim details, you get broad judgements. (That's not saying that we *want* or *need* to know a detailed auto-biography of your family...) Basically, all we knew was that the cat was hurt and your finances were tight. I think that all PTers will agree that giving up an animal is THE last resort. But sometimes, rehoming is the only solution. Hopefully, you've found a way around that and are able to get him the medical care he needs.

At any rate, what I wanted to comment on.... "college pot smoking idiots." For every 'pot smoking idiot' I'm willing to bet there are two or three who don't/aren't.

My old college roommate found a baby-sitting job through the university's placement/career services office. Why not call a local college/university and 'place an ad' -- interviews can be conducted 'in house' by YOU and/or Your Hubby; you'll be hiring someone you feel comfortable with. Explain to them the situation OR if you don't want them to know about your finances, tell them they are "under observation" for __ wks, at the end of which they will be paid; subsequent pay checks will follow every __ wk.

Just an idea-

Well I know not all are that way (college kids) but every single one of them here is. They have parties every night etc. Two set of apartments just got kicked out because they wre growing marijuana in the bathroom. We live in Eugene, there are a lot of weird people here.

As for your idea, I have considered interviewing people of course, and I would not place my son with anyone who I did not. But I appreciate the idea for "under observation". I think that is great. Thank you.