There's no decent men left

[mugsy]

I'm not saying that other countries don't have freedom of speech, but you have to admit that MOST countries do not have the same rights that we as Americans do. And for that, I thank the men and women who serve or served in the military who fought or are fighting to keep those freedoms. As for posting as we please on Pet Talk, Karen and Paul are allowed to give us that freedom because of the men and women who fought and some died so that we could retain that freedom. I'm sorry, but I am pro military. My family has a long proud history of serving our country. I had one uncle who died in the Civil War fighting for what he believed was right.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Lalania, I'm almost 40 and I've never been married. I think my longest relationship was about 2 years and that was an on again off again kind of relationship. I also lived with one boyfriend and I learned a lot of things from my mistakes. Now I've stopped looking for Mr. Right and I just live for me and my 3 cats. I figure if I'm meant to have a partner in life then it will happen and if not then it won't. Since I'm not used to having a boyfriend, I really don't miss it. Good luck but please take your time.

[COCatMama]

I grew up as an only child with one parent, and sometimes it was kinda hard. I guess I don't want to end up alone like my mom, my friend who is also 40 (she is miserable about it) and like, a ton of other people I know. I am sick of spending 1 or 2 years with some guy only to have it end, I guess that's the risk you take in life. Blah.

[Logan]

It is better to find a way to be happy with yourself, first, I believe. That way, when you have the blessing of just the right partner, it is an added gift. I believe the people who have found the most happiness, single or married, are those who are comfortable with themselves first. I was there.......happy with my life, alone, and then things have changed for the better. I can certainly understand your feelings about the 1-2 year relationships......being built up, then disappointed.

We have great examples of both kinds here on Pet Talk, many who are so content and happy alone, and those who found the right person to share their life with. I wish only the best things for you.

Logan

[COCatMama]

thanks logan!

[Soledad]

Lalania -

My aunt is nearly fifty and is single with no children. I think she was quite depressed about this for some time, until my mother suggest she consider focusing her energies on their aging parents. So, now she cares for them and has found a sort of purpose and meaning in that.

Not that you have to do anything like that, but I think it's about finding something to fill that void. Being single is actually quite liberating in the sense that you don't have to plan your life around anyone else. You can travel, you can move, you can make a drastic career change without having to consult anyone. Enjoy it! And if you still feel something is missing, there is no limits on how to let people into your life.