A thread for Pam and her family.

[Casper]

Pam, my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family during this difficult time. I'm sorry.

[sparks19]

OMG... Pam. I am so sorry

I really have no words. I'm so sorry

[Pam]

Thank you everybody. I am doing pretty good although on Wednesday I was thinking to myself "I have nowhere to go tomorrow" (since I always visited Mom on Thursdays) and the tears came out of nowhere. My tears are for me and not her. As the pastor said at her funeral, "if we were were to ask her to come back she would say "No Thank You!" I rest in that!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I'm so sorry for you & your family, dear Pam

sending you a big hug !!

[Cookiebaker]

Pam, I am so sorry for your loss of your Mom. Sending you lots of {{hugs}}.

[shais_mom]

much love and sympathy on the way for Pam and Robyn and all the family.
((hugs))

[caseysmom]

Thank you everybody. I am doing pretty good although on Wednesday I was thinking to myself "I have nowhere to go tomorrow" (since I always visited Mom on Thursdays) and the tears came out of nowhere. My tears are for me and not her. As the pastor said at her funeral, "if we were were to ask her to come back she would say "No Thank You!" I rest in that!

I know what you mean, my mom always came over for dinner on Saturday night, it was strange on saturdays after she passed on. That is how I found her, she didn't show up on time on saturday so I had to go looking for her. I had a fresh peach milkshake in the freezer waiting for her, I had to have my husband throw it away.

Maybe for a while you can take flowers to her grave to comfort you on thursdays? In time it will be easier.

[kimlovescats]

Dear Pam and Robyn, I am so terribly sorry to hear of your mother / grandmother's passing! I am sure there can be no greater pain than losing your mother. I pray that the Lord will give you peace in your hearts!

[*LabLoverKEB*]

Pam and Christiansmommy, I am soo terribly sorry for your loss. I know how hard this is for you....
Love and prayers on the way!

[caseysmom]

How are you doing Pam? I hope your okay.

[cassiesmom]

Pam, I am just now seeing this thread. Remembering you in thoughts and prayers.

[Rachel]

Thought of it being a week on Friday and now going into another week. The separation process takes on new dimensions as each day passes. Even as we get older, I doubt that we ever outgrow our need for a mother.

One of the things I learned about Pam's mother was that she was so well liked at the retirement community where she spent her final years. As we age some of our ideosyncracies can be a bit off putting, so that is no small attribute to have. She was also an extremely unselfish woman who spent many years caring for a husband who was ill. Even though I never met her, these aspects of how she lived her life are something I would like to strive to emulate.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I've got a suspicion that Pam's mom made a significant stop at the Rainbow Bridge. Hugs to both of you, Pam and Robyn.

[Killearn Kitties]

I'm so very sorry to hear this, and sorry I am so late in seeing it. Your posts mentioned your mother on occasion Pam, and it was obvious how much she meant to you.
Sending very best wishes for all your family at this time.

[joycenalex]

pam, robyn, i just saw this today, i am so so sorry for your huge loss.

[Pam]

Thank you so much everyone. This is really the most caring community of people that I ever met. I am so thankful that I found this site so many years ago. My grief is for myself. Mom is in heaven - no doubt in my mind! Rachel is so right. She was loved by all. The one LPN who had been assigned to her for the last few years happens to be a man. He told me recently that he loved my mom. They would "throw" kisses to each other. It was the cutest thing to watch. Mom would kiss her hand and then, using her index finger, she would "flick" the kiss to Bill and he would reciprocate.

I have a little sort of shrine on my dining room table. There is a huge plant from my niece and her hubby in the center and then I have a picture of Mom and a picture of Dad next to it in front of the plant along with the guest book that was at the funeral. I am now able to walk by the "shrine" and smile, knowing she is happy and whole now.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I've got a suspicion that Pam's mom made a significant stop at the Rainbow Bridge. Hugs to both of you, Pam and Robyn.

Rachel, most definitely she has found our dogs, hers and mine, and probably has a lapful now. She also loved little children. Just a few years ago she told me she wished she could have adopted some children earlier in life (she only had two - my brother and myself) and would still do it at the age of 90 if she was allowed! LOL!

Thank you once again everyone. I was very fortunate to have had her in my life. She had a big impact on me and probably in many ways I am who I am because of her.